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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #860 on: May 21, 2015, 07:57:46 PM »
Fine, if you insist. So you don't care about shabbos.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #861 on: May 21, 2015, 08:01:58 PM »
I guess your premise that anyone who was for the gathering couldn't care less about the kids was wrong. Probably just as wrong as saying that those who are against it couldn't care less about shabbos.
Who said that was my premise

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #862 on: May 21, 2015, 08:03:33 PM »
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Isn't that what you were saying about Assad?
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #863 on: May 21, 2015, 08:04:39 PM »
Who said that was my premise
Then explain it without that premise
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #864 on: May 22, 2015, 07:46:53 AM »
Where can I get breakfast in diamon dist?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #865 on: May 22, 2015, 07:51:11 AM »
Where can I get breakfast in diamon dist?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #866 on: May 22, 2015, 10:32:57 AM »
This is a post from from Ben Turin a lawyer in Lakewood on FB-  It may have been clumsy, however, I believe the efforts stemmed from a deep felt sense of caring. I have heard a number of first-hand reports from individuals that were there, that following the initial "march", there was a great deal of positive one on one interaction including some of the Lakewood rabbis hanging out with the kids for an extended period of time and talking. Equally interesting, I personally am aware of a number of grass-roots initiatives have taken root in the few days since.
 As an example of the efforts I mentioned in my earlier post, Oorah has received a number of requests from local individuals for assistance in putting together programming for Lakewood youth who are disenchanted with the "main-stream" community.

I can't find his post. where?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #867 on: May 22, 2015, 01:53:56 PM »
I can't find his post. where?
By the comments on finks article on FB

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #868 on: May 22, 2015, 02:40:34 PM »
By the comments on finks article on FB

oh, I don't look at fink.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #869 on: May 22, 2015, 02:42:12 PM »
oh, I don't look at fink.
Good don't define your eyes and your mind with that liberal MO garbage.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #870 on: May 22, 2015, 02:51:38 PM »
Good don't define your eyes and your mind with that liberal MO garbage.

Is fink MO?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #872 on: May 22, 2015, 02:55:46 PM »
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #873 on: May 22, 2015, 02:57:53 PM »
No, but Fink is.

Hence my wondering at affiliating him with MO.

Most MO that I know wouldn't affiliate with him.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #874 on: May 22, 2015, 02:58:30 PM »
No, but Fink is.
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« Reply #875 on: May 22, 2015, 03:03:06 PM »
You truly are the king of straw man arguments.
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #876 on: May 22, 2015, 03:11:38 PM »
You truly are the king of straw man arguments.
I'd think a king should be treated with more respect.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #877 on: May 22, 2015, 03:18:01 PM »
I'd think a king should be treated with more respect.
At least as much as the Chief Rabbi...

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« Reply #878 on: May 22, 2015, 03:27:20 PM »
At least as much as the Chief Rabbi...
Haha not bad

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #879 on: May 22, 2015, 05:35:54 PM »
New sign up in bMG today signed by Rabbi Yehuda Jacobs, who is the leading rabbi organizing the protest, that people should not take their kids and teenagers. It's better they shouldnt see the chillul shabbos and pritzus.
eta: I was the one who originally quoted R Abadi and while it is 100% accurate I do regret posting it in a public forum as it may have an adverse effect on his relationship with the kids.
 I would like to apologize to him publicly
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