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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #80 on: May 17, 2015, 07:38:09 PM »

I started a wiki.

Add use unkind methods to stop them. I vote we bring back the belt, whip them into shape

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #81 on: May 17, 2015, 07:38:17 PM »
what is your level of connection to them
Level 6
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #82 on: May 17, 2015, 07:39:09 PM »

what is your level of connection to them
From your posts and his...I can tell you definitely way higher then yours.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #83 on: May 17, 2015, 07:40:02 PM »
ok I respect that, so what is the solution?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #84 on: May 17, 2015, 07:40:08 PM »
But he's probably just a so called expert so he doesn't know anything.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #85 on: May 17, 2015, 07:40:34 PM »
Level 6
Really? A level six? And you're not otd yet?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #86 on: May 17, 2015, 07:41:08 PM »

ok I respect that, so what is the solution?
Class open to Page 327 and read the next three pages... All the answers are there.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #87 on: May 17, 2015, 07:42:01 PM »

Really? A level six? And you're not otd yet?
This thread can definitely be added to the list.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #88 on: May 17, 2015, 07:43:36 PM »
what is your level of connection to them
You can look back at my first post in this thread for a better idea (reply #1)
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #89 on: May 17, 2015, 07:47:34 PM »
ok I respect that, so what is the solution?
There is no easy solution! If anyone is in kiruv krovim expecting immediate results, they are in wrong line of work! Its constant love, and caring. No two kids are the same, one can be "OTD" rebelling, while another can just be there for a sense of belonging!
Gathering a rally definitely won't get any of them frum. Its patience and understanding, even with that it can take a long time and they might never come back on the derech. At least you can limit drug use etc. by them feeling accepted!

Out of curiosity, what do the rally organizers plan if a fight breaks out one week?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #90 on: May 17, 2015, 07:48:50 PM »
Really? A level six? And you're not otd yet?
I'm sure he wears one of these:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #91 on: May 17, 2015, 07:50:12 PM »

There is no easy solution! If anyone is in kiruv krovim expecting immediate results, they are in wrong line of work! Its constant love, and caring. No two kids are the same, one can be "OTD" rebelling, while another can just be there for a sense of belonging!
Gathering a rally definitely won't get any of them frum. Its patience and understanding, even with that it can take a long time and they might never come back on the derech. At least you can limit drug use etc. by them feeling accepted!

Out of curiosity, what do the rally organizers plan if a fight breaks out one week?

Well said, I imagine they didn't think of the possibility of a fight.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #92 on: May 17, 2015, 07:51:15 PM »
Well said, I imagine they didn't think of the possibility of a fight.
I didn't imagine there was much thinking all together

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #93 on: May 17, 2015, 07:51:30 PM »
There is no easy solution! If anyone is in kiruv krovim expecting immediate results, they are in wrong line of work! Its constant love, and caring. No two kids are the same, one can be "OTD" rebelling, while another can just be there for a sense of belonging!
Gathering a rally definitely won't get any of them frum. Its patience and understanding, even with that it can take a long time and they might never come back on the derech. At least you can limit drug use etc. by them feeling accepted!

Out of curiosity, what do the rally organizers plan if a fight breaks out one week?
As of now the cops showed up the past 2 weeks
They even asked the cops to kick the kids out and the cops obviously said they did nothing wrong
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #94 on: May 17, 2015, 07:52:25 PM »
I'm sure he wears one of these:
Lol gotta get one of those. Then i ready could help these "nebech cases"

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #95 on: May 17, 2015, 07:53:04 PM »
baalei tshuva arent influencing thousands of kids to go otd

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #96 on: May 17, 2015, 07:53:25 PM »
Lol gotta get one of those. Then i ready could help these "nebech cases"
No you don't need to get too close just smile at them instead of staring them down
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #97 on: May 17, 2015, 07:54:02 PM »
baalei tshuva arent influencing thousands of kids to go otd
? ?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #98 on: May 17, 2015, 07:54:30 PM »
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #99 on: May 17, 2015, 07:54:38 PM »

baalei tshuva arent influencing thousands of kids to go otd
????