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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


תניא פרק ל"ב

ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #240 on: May 18, 2015, 10:51:00 AM »
Anyone with a pic of the BMG signed letter?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #241 on: May 18, 2015, 11:07:04 AM »
I got both of these neither are signed
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #242 on: May 18, 2015, 11:19:22 AM »
Was R' Yerucham present this past shabbos?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #243 on: May 18, 2015, 11:51:08 AM »
A couple quick thoughts, against my better judgment:
1) Ask your LOR if you're allowed to watch those video's. Presumably there was chilul shabbos involved in filming it.
I didn't ask a posek, but I looked it up in the Mishnah Berurah (סי' שיח). If a Jew was מבשל בשבת, even במזיד, it is מותר for someone else to have הנאה immediately after Shabbos.
Was R' Yerucham present this past shabbos?
IIRC, you can see him in one of the videos.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #244 on: May 18, 2015, 12:09:28 PM »
Without getting into the arguments on this thread, I believe that there a number of truly shameful issues at play which are objectively beyond any sort of tolerance or acceptance form both sides.

1) When you take a video with your phone, hold it horizontally, and for goodness sake, don't switch in the middle. The videos are abhorrent.
2) A few hundred people together and all you can manage is to croak out what sounds like a handful of half a sleep drones? Come on. You have a big group, at least make the songs sound good.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #245 on: May 18, 2015, 12:29:35 PM »
Without getting into the arguments on this thread, I believe that there a number of truly shameful issues at play which are objectively beyond any sort of tolerance or acceptance form both sides.

1) When you take a video with your phone, hold it horizontally, and for goodness sake, don't switch in the middle. The videos are abhorrent.
2) A few hundred people together and all you can manage is to croak out what sounds like a handful of half a sleep drones? Come on. You have a big group, at least make the songs sound good.

You really got to the core of the issue with this post
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #246 on: May 18, 2015, 12:40:00 PM »
I recently heard Rabbi Wallerstein (Nobody can blame him for not caring) making a very valid point at a Kiruv convention. For all that we talk about what parents or teachers did wrong that might have caused it, we forget  that many times we should just blame the kids themselves and their yetzer hara.
Which Wallerstein said this?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #247 on: May 18, 2015, 12:41:28 PM »
You really got to the core of the issue with this post
It does show a lack of seriousness on both sides......
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #248 on: May 18, 2015, 12:43:08 PM »
Without getting into the arguments on this thread, I believe that there a number of truly shameful issues at play which are objectively beyond any sort of tolerance or acceptance form both sides.

1) When you take a video with your phone, hold it horizontally, and for goodness sake, don't switch in the middle. The videos are abhorrent.
Someone should start an organization addressing this egregious act. Education is sorely needed.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #249 on: May 18, 2015, 12:48:30 PM »
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/311945/today-atzeres-tefilla-in-ashdod-against-chilul-shabbos.html

Organizers stress that Ashdod Chief Rabbi HaGaon HaRav Yosef Sheinin announces the event is an atzeres tefilla, not a protest rally. He explains that Maran HaGaon HaRav Aaron Yehuda Leib Shteinman Shlita objects to protests, but does encourage holding an atzeres tefilla.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #250 on: May 18, 2015, 12:52:54 PM »

I grew up seeing otd teenagers (some were our neighbors) being mechalel shabbos. My parents spoke about it at our shabbos table that they're Jewish kids that unfortunately went otd and we should pray for them and be kind to them. Whenever he passed them he would give a smile and a nice hello and high five. We understood that he didn't agree with their lifestyle and we all learned a major lesson in being a mentch. That's what my parents told me. That's what the parents in lakewood could tell their kids. It will teach the kids a bigger lesson than showing up to one of these protests
Of course, that's what you teach your children about OTD neighbors, relatives, etc. It seems, though that a line has been crossed and this population is more of a movement than just some misguided angry kids. It has morphed into a lifestyle that seems to demand that we accept their path in life without any objections.
Protesting against blatant chillul Shabbos does not equal hating or marginalizing individuals in pain.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #253 on: May 18, 2015, 01:27:32 PM »


Of course, that's what you teach your children about OTD neighbors, relatives, etc. It seems, though that a line has been crossed and this population is more of a movement than just some misguided angry kids. It has morphed into a lifestyle that seems to demand that we accept their path in life without any objections.
Protesting against blatant chillul Shabbos does not equal hating or marginalizing individuals in pain.
Exactly. The point is that these kids are now demanding that we "be chilled and accepting" (words I heard today from a kid) They are expecting that we accept zenus and chillul shabbos befarhesya lehachis.

We don't have to be chilled and accepting to this extent.

Btw I hear that shvous night there may be some action planned around yeshiva............... Video will be posted
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #254 on: May 18, 2015, 01:27:32 PM »

I don't see how what happened shabbos fulfilled the mandate of the letter

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #255 on: May 18, 2015, 01:32:25 PM »


What does this letter have to do with singing in their faces on Shabbos ?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #256 on: May 18, 2015, 01:38:30 PM »

What does this letter have to do with singing in their faces on Shabbos ?

It actually implies the opposite.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #257 on: May 18, 2015, 01:42:05 PM »
What does this letter have to do with singing in their faces on Shabbos ?
Singing next to them is aggressive?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #258 on: May 18, 2015, 01:44:43 PM »

Singing next to them is aggressive?

Imagine it was done to you by people of a different faith. Would you find it charming or aggressive?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #259 on: May 18, 2015, 01:52:29 PM »
Imagine it was done to you by people of a different faith. Would you find it charming or aggressive?
Not sure what you are saying. This was a protest. It was the very definition of a peaceful one.