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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


תניא פרק ל"ב

ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #360 on: May 19, 2015, 04:04:06 PM »
He totally missed the boat. What is happening at the lake is not a breach of Lakewood standards but a breach of any standard of observant Judaism. If you call for people to accept that then you are espousing at best modern orthodoxy.
On his other point, this has nothing to do with people accepting colored shirts. There are many people in Lakewood who wear them and feel very accepted. The difference between those who feel accepted and those who do not is more their actions.
No mention in his article that they are protesting blatant chillul shabbos, he claims they are protesting the fact that these kids dress "differently"

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #361 on: May 19, 2015, 04:04:11 PM »


when it more of a parade or a peaceful demonstration that most of the boys were not upset about.
Where did you get that impression from? This is not a peaceful demonstration its about as peaceful as you can call a peaceful demonstration on your front lawn

And most of them are very upset about it
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #362 on: May 19, 2015, 04:06:37 PM »
And I remain: huh?
Then maybe you are the one here who is the most closed minded in the opposite way of which he accuses Lakewood of being.
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #363 on: May 19, 2015, 04:11:29 PM »
Then maybe you are the one here who is the most closed minded in the opposite way of which he accuses Lakewood of being.
I still I fail to follow your point. But you can continue to attack me instead of clarifying your opinion.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #364 on: May 19, 2015, 04:16:40 PM »
Where did you get that impression from? This is not a peaceful demonstration its about as peaceful as you can call a peaceful demonstration on your front lawn

And most of them are very upset about it

Well obviously public property is not like your front lawn.
I got the impression from someone that was there and shmoozed with a few of the boys.
Where did you get your impression from?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #365 on: May 19, 2015, 04:19:41 PM »


Well obviously public property is not like your front lawn.
I got the impression from someone that was there and shmoozed with a few of the boys.
Where did you get your impression from?
I get my impression from schmoozing with them
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #366 on: May 19, 2015, 04:28:08 PM »
Fink is completely clueless.

1) Not every yeshiva in lakewood is a top of the line yeshiva.
2) People that wear colored shirts aren't considered rebels in Lakewood, and can get their kids in yeshiva.
They might not be considered yeshivish, but that would apply in any town.

Side point:
I was told from someone there, that many people approached the boys at the lake and were able to talk with them (in a helping manner).
Some even convinced some of the boys to leave the lake.
I was also told that besides 3-5 people, everyone else was not (openly) mechalel shabbos.
Also, the use of the word "protest" paints a picture of people castigating and yelling at the boys,
when it more of a parade or a peaceful demonstration that most of the boys were not upset about.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #367 on: May 19, 2015, 04:33:16 PM »
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #368 on: May 19, 2015, 04:37:45 PM »
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #369 on: May 19, 2015, 04:43:44 PM »
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555
Hence....
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #370 on: May 19, 2015, 04:45:57 PM »

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #371 on: May 19, 2015, 04:48:55 PM »
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555

@Dan, you're in good company.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #372 on: May 19, 2015, 04:49:43 PM »

Oh gosh.
No one saw this coming.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #373 on: May 19, 2015, 05:13:03 PM »
He totally missed the boat. What is happening at the lake is not a breach of Lakewood standards but a breach of any standard of observant Judaism. If you call for people to accept that then you are espousing at best modern orthodoxy.
On his other point, this has nothing to do with people accepting colored shirts. There are many people in Lakewood who wear them and feel very accepted. The difference between those who feel accepted and those who do not is more their actions.
That's the bottom line.
Usually whatever this guy says is a warning to run in the other direction. He's MO on steroids-just read some other stuff he's written. If you want to approach it from a really frum kiruv perspective then we have what to talk about but from an MO perspective nothing even starts.
ETA: I see I was mechavein to Dan. And yes that link shows his true colors. Yuck.
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #374 on: May 19, 2015, 05:17:05 PM »
Oh gosh.
No one saw this coming.
I hope you are being sarcastic. This was obviously what was going to happen
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #375 on: May 19, 2015, 05:17:59 PM »
I hope you are being sarcastic. This was obviously what was going to happen
Of course. But it's not relevant.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #376 on: May 19, 2015, 05:18:11 PM »
but from an MO perspective nothing even starts.
Challilah, because MO's are not even Jewish
Life isn't about checking the boxes. Nobody cares.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #377 on: May 19, 2015, 05:18:37 PM »
Of course. But it's not relevant.
What's not relevant?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #378 on: May 19, 2015, 05:22:48 PM »
What's not relevant?
The fact that they don't like the "frummy" protest.
Challilah, because MO's are not even Jewish
That's not a way to argue-if you have a point say it straight out.
I think if you want to leave shmiras shabbos to the MO's you're oblivious to what's going on in the world. Nobody says MO's aren't Jewish but many say that many of their grandkids won't be and if you're aware of the HUGE problems with shabbos in that community you'll understand why. And yes it's way worse than the shabbos issues in the rest of the frum world.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #379 on: May 19, 2015, 05:29:14 PM »
Can't believe you guys are debating an article written by that moron. 
You couldn't pay me to read anything he has to say after the arguments he put up here: https://www.facebook.com/eliyahu.fink/posts/10102202420967555
+1 refuse to give the guy my hit even if he's not saying anything bad this time