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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


תניא פרק ל"ב

ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #700 on: May 20, 2015, 07:28:06 PM »
So explain the menacing anger?
Its a lie
If the posts here have any reflection on some of the peoples attitudes...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #701 on: May 20, 2015, 07:32:20 PM »
If the posts here have any reflection on some of the peoples attitudes...
+1

But don't worry, They'll have a tirutz.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #702 on: May 20, 2015, 07:40:13 PM »
+1

But don't worry, They'll have a tirutz.
Of course and its lshaim shomaim
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #703 on: May 20, 2015, 08:21:13 PM »

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #704 on: May 20, 2015, 08:23:52 PM »
Bump!
I took a haircut first day Rosh Chodesh :( my 33 are over tomorrow

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #705 on: May 20, 2015, 08:36:43 PM »
I took a haircut first day Rosh Chodesh :( my 33 are over tomorrow

Ugh, my long hair is making me so miserable. Minhag Chabad is not to cut until erev yom tov mamash (or in this kvius erev shabbos.) Where is that Chabad minhogim thread?


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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #706 on: May 20, 2015, 08:40:15 PM »
Ugh, my long hair is making me so miserable. Minhag Chabad is not to cut until erev yom tov mamash (or in this kvius erev shabbos.) Where is that Chabad minhogim thread?
http://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=10713.0
ETA. Real Chabad (as opposed to me who's fake chabad) doesn't get a haircut on Lag Ba'omer?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #707 on: May 20, 2015, 08:42:14 PM »
Ugh, my long hair is making me so miserable. Minhag Chabad is not to cut until erev yom tov mamash (or in this kvius erev shabbos.) Where is that Chabad minhogim thread?


+ Chabad observes the full 49 days of Sefirah...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #708 on: May 20, 2015, 08:57:03 PM »
+ Chabad observes the full 49 days of Sefirah...
If anyone has a good excuse to be cranky right now it's me and you don't see me antagonizing frei kids, do ya?

(Just trying to keep the thread on topic.)

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #709 on: May 20, 2015, 09:01:36 PM »
If anyone has a good excuse to be cranky right now it's me and you don't see me antagonizing frei kids, do ya?

(Just trying to keep the thread on topic.)
I think it was better off topic
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #710 on: May 20, 2015, 09:05:03 PM »
+ Chabad observes the full 49 days of Sefirah...

Incl number 33?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #711 on: May 20, 2015, 09:18:09 PM »
Incl number 33?

Al pi kabalas ha'Ari, yes. Even an avi haben by a bris on 33 doesn't get a haircut.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #712 on: May 20, 2015, 10:28:45 PM »
Wow, I derailed the most active and most disgusting thread on all of DDF. I am sort of proud... and sort of sad.

 :) :'(

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #713 on: May 20, 2015, 10:32:16 PM »
Wow, I derailed the most active and most disgusting thread on all of DDF. I am sort of proud... and sort of sad.

 :) :'(
Disgusting?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #714 on: May 20, 2015, 10:36:58 PM »
Wow, I derailed the most active and most disgusting thread on all of DDF. I am sort of proud... and sort of sad.

 :) :'(
And for that we are thankful.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #715 on: May 20, 2015, 10:38:00 PM »
Disgusting?
And here we go again!  ;D ;D ;D

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #716 on: May 20, 2015, 10:42:42 PM »
Al pi kabalas ha'Ari, yes. Even an avi haben by a bris on 33 doesn't get a haircut.
Not sure all Lubavitchers go by that...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #717 on: May 20, 2015, 10:49:27 PM »
Al pi kabalas ha'Ari, yes. Even an avi haben by a bris on 33 doesn't get a haircut.

So you argue with Rabi shimon bar yochai?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #718 on: May 20, 2015, 10:52:43 PM »
So you argue with Rabi shimon bar yochai?

I listen to music. I just don't get a haircut.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #719 on: May 20, 2015, 11:59:58 PM »
Disgusting?
Yes-mocking a peaceful chillul shabbos protest is disgusting.