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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


תניא פרק ל"ב

ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #920 on: May 29, 2015, 06:01:26 PM »
Well that for me would be a soap opera. Tragic but fascinating.
Would you bring popcorn?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #921 on: May 29, 2015, 06:02:58 PM »
Would you bring popcorn?
Rocks (that were prepared in advance)

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #922 on: May 29, 2015, 06:05:56 PM »
Rocks (that were prepared in advance)
Hilarious.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #923 on: May 31, 2015, 10:04:38 AM »
Outside j2 last night


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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #924 on: May 31, 2015, 10:13:47 AM »

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #925 on: May 31, 2015, 10:16:13 AM »
Outside j2 last night


Awsome! Those guys know how to communicate with them.
You're probably looking for this thread,
http://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=7821.0
Nope. Works for both thou. Btw if u dont know j2 is where the otd guys hang motzai shabbos
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #926 on: May 31, 2015, 07:42:23 PM »
j2 is where the otd guys hang motzai shabbos

Everyone in this video looked like yeshiva bochurim to me. some bein hazmanim, some during the zman

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #927 on: May 31, 2015, 08:58:44 PM »
Outside j2 last night


Same bus was by the Israeli day concert.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #928 on: June 02, 2015, 11:41:22 AM »
I haven't read through this entire thread, but from what I have read, it seems that many people feel that the rallies cause more harm to these teens than it benefits them.

I don't know if that's the case, but  the purpose isn't necessarily to bring them back.

I would think the main point is to show honor to Shabbos by protesting it's chillul, regardless of the direct affect it may have on the mechallelim.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #929 on: June 02, 2015, 11:47:30 AM »
I haven't read through this entire thread, but from what I have read, it seems that many people feel that the rallies cause more harm to these teens than it benefits them.

I don't know if that's the case, but  the purpose isn't necessarily to bring them back.

I would think the main point is to show honor to Shabbos by protesting it's chillul, regardless of the direct affect it may have on the mechallelim.
Yep welcome to our side. That's exactly what some of us have been saying.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #930 on: June 02, 2015, 11:50:26 AM »
Yep welcome to our side. That's exactly what some of us have been saying.
And it seems like that approach has been deemed untenable....

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #931 on: June 02, 2015, 11:51:16 AM »
I haven't read through this entire thread, but from what I have read, it seems that many people feel that the rallies cause more harm to these teens than it benefits them.

I don't know if that's the case, but  the purpose isn't necessarily to bring them back.

I would think the main point is to show honor to Shabbos by protesting it's chillul, regardless of the direct affect it may have on the mechallelim.
Why is this your way to honor Shabbos?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #932 on: June 02, 2015, 11:51:29 AM »
I guess it would seem that way to someone looking to criticize.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #933 on: June 02, 2015, 11:53:12 AM »
Why is this your way to honor Shabbos?
It's not exclusively. I also eat cholent.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #934 on: June 02, 2015, 11:55:56 AM »
It's not exclusively. I also eat cholent.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #935 on: June 02, 2015, 11:56:26 AM »
It's not exclusively. I also eat cholent.
Try more cholent and less protesting. It'll keep you in the bathroom more and turn away our youth less ;)

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #936 on: June 02, 2015, 11:56:40 AM »
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #937 on: June 02, 2015, 12:00:14 PM »
Try more cholent and less protesting. It'll keep you in the bathroom more and turn away our youth less ;)
I don't actually live in Lakewood (my joke on the DO thread notwithstanding), but these guys are already away, and I thinking standing up for the kavod of Shabbos is a lisitivet, if done properly (I wasn't there, so I don't know if it was).

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #938 on: June 02, 2015, 12:05:31 PM »
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #939 on: June 02, 2015, 12:06:52 PM »

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