Growing up in lakewood, I had the exact same experience. I was shocked to find out a vacht nach can be more than shema and pekelach.
Yup, something I was warned when I moved to Lakewood, when your neighbor has a boy don't knock on the door to say mazel tov unless you verify that they're expecting guest
When I was learning in EY I found out that not everyone stays up till the morning
when I moved to Lakewood I found out that not everyone has a vachnacht on their simcha checklist