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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #20 on: February 09, 2011, 06:01:53 AM »
Let's annoint Chuchem as the forum posek. This way I can go to Super to get my Heterim

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #21 on: February 09, 2011, 07:17:13 AM »
Let's annoint/annoyt him.

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #22 on: February 09, 2011, 07:33:26 AM »
IME the reason to go swimming late at night or other deserted times is that husband and wife can swim together, not so the wife can go not fully covered. If she has a "cover-up" then i don't see the problem.

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #23 on: February 09, 2011, 11:38:37 AM »
Unless you have a private pool like dan in thailand its for sure not allowed.
But maybe there were cameras in our villa ;D
So even late at night or at a quiet beach
The chance that someone will pass by or look out of window and see her is a problem.
Honestly, I'll be happy to give anyone a heter to swim with their wife at a deserted Hawaiian beach at night.
Other than that, feel free to ask your LOR
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #24 on: February 09, 2011, 12:53:09 PM »
But maybe there were cameras in our villa ;DHonestly, I'll be happy to give anyone a heter to swim with their wife at a deserted Hawaiian beach at night.
Other than that, feel free to ask your LOR
But in your great haste to go swimming on deserted Hawaiian beaches at night, please stay safe and avoid the 30 ft waves that really do exist. That would be a horrible way to avoid being seen :-)

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #25 on: February 09, 2011, 04:45:25 PM »
IME the reason to go swimming late at night or other deserted times is that husband and wife can swim together, not so the wife can go not fully covered. If she has a "cover-up" then i don't see the problem.

together? whats the problem of going swimming together? Why wait for the night? The question was if she can go in a bathing suit. If its mutar, then the day should also be fine.

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #26 on: February 09, 2011, 04:49:35 PM »
together? whats the problem of going swimming together? Why wait for the night? The question was if she can go in a bathing suit. If its mutar, then the day should also be fine.
I was wondering the same thing. When he started with "IME" (assuming he meant IMO) I was thinking "what does his opinion have to do with halacha?" The I read his post I was like "Huh?"
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #27 on: February 09, 2011, 06:16:59 PM »
I was wondering the same thing. When he started with "IME" (assuming he meant IMO) I was thinking "what does his opinion have to do with halacha?" The I read his post I was like "Huh?"

Perhaps he was referring to experience when consulting a Rabbi regarding this issue.
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #28 on: February 09, 2011, 07:23:07 PM »
@chuchem, put her on a bhurka

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #29 on: February 09, 2011, 07:29:07 PM »
@chuchem, put her on a bhurka
Or a Buruini.

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #30 on: February 09, 2011, 07:30:25 PM »
but if there's anyone else there with a bhurka, he might get confused...
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #31 on: February 09, 2011, 09:19:28 PM »
but if there's anyone else there with a bhurka, he might get confused...
Guess that's why arabs are shtufei zimah :)

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #32 on: February 09, 2011, 09:42:53 PM »
Guess that's why arabs are shtufei zimah :)
Finally we got daas torah ;)

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #33 on: February 09, 2011, 09:48:13 PM »
Finally we got daas torah ;)
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #34 on: February 09, 2011, 10:05:55 PM »
Or a Buruini.

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Anyone goin' for a Burqini ;D
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #35 on: February 09, 2011, 10:20:21 PM »
Dan, did u really NEED to show us that picture...?!
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #36 on: February 09, 2011, 10:27:34 PM »
Dan, did u really NEED to show us that picture...?!
Lol, you're right.  Really she should have socks on to complete the look!
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #37 on: February 09, 2011, 10:33:32 PM »
and can someone tell me why the heck is she smiling??
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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #38 on: February 09, 2011, 10:46:19 PM »
together? whats the problem of going swimming together? Why wait for the night? The question was if she can go in a bathing suit. If its mutar, then the day should also be fine.
I was wondering the same thing. When he started with "IME" (assuming he meant IMO) I was thinking "what does his opinion have to do with halacha?" The I read his post I was like "Huh?"
Let me explain myself: it is mutar to go swimming together. it is the other people that are going to be in the pool that are the the problem (at least in my religion). Therefore to avoid other people couples will go at a deserted time e.g.-late at night. If you need any more help understanding my simple post then ask and i will explain further.

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Re: Swimming with Wife at empty hotel pools
« Reply #39 on: February 09, 2011, 10:52:04 PM »
@chuchem, put her on a bhurka
Or a Buruini.

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AsherO: Aren't you supposed to be the grammar police here? how'd you let him get away with that one?