Paying for high school

[yochiek93]

B"h
I have reached the point in my life where I am sending my son off to yeshiva and I have no clue how I am can  to pay for it😢.
Does anyone have any experience? Secrets to share?
How much do you think I can realisticly expect the school to give me for a scholarship?
Thanks!

Whatever you do don't do big vacations with flying  f or j even if its all miles because people talk (my father is an ex director in a school that one thing he says)

[coralsnake]

Not from where I come from. Maybe it has greater effect on sheltered kids?

Oh please.

I was far from sheltered growing up and had many Jewish and non-Jewish friends in public school. I saw a dozens who would change their look and crowd every few months.

So you're saying- most of the kids youve seen grow up are not only the same as they were during high school, but the same as they were in 8th grade?

[ChaimMoskowitz]

Don't look at sheltered as a bad thing.

What am saying is once kids hit HS you have a good idea which ones are going to give you trouble. Also them turning out as upstanding is not the job of schools.

[grodnoking]

Don't look at sheltered as a bad thing.

What am saying is once kids hit HS you have a good idea which ones are going to give you trouble. Also them turning out as upstanding is not the job of schools.

But if the kids not looking good you'll send him to a good school in hopes of him turning out good. You wont send him to public school so he can continue on his path...

[etech0]

Don't look at sheltered as a bad thing.

What am saying is once kids hit HS you have a good idea which ones are going to give you trouble. Also them turning out as upstanding is not the job of schools.

There are many types and levels of "upstanding"

[ChaimMoskowitz]

There are many types and levels of "upstanding"

That would make for one heck of a PC thread. 

[etech0]

That would make for one heck of a PC thread. 

It's only Sunday, though

[ChaimMoskowitz]

But if the kids not looking good you'll send him to a good school in hopes of him turning out good. You wont send him to public school so he can continue on his path...

Lets not lump all public schools together.

[etech0]

Lets not lump all public schools together.

Or all Jewish schools, for that matter

[sky121]

My only issue with parents sending their kids to a frum school is the false sense that they are being raised correctly with less effort from parents themselves.

[etech0]

My only issue with parents sending their kids to a frum school is the false sense that they are being raised correctly with less effort from parents themselves.

And that's a discussion for another PC thread

[ChaimMoskowitz]

My only issue with parents sending their kids to a frum school is the false sense that they are being raised correctly with less effort from parents themselves.

Ding, ding, ding we have a winner!

[Yammer]

Ding, ding, ding we have a winner!

This time I'm fully behind you

 +1,000,000

[chaimmayer]

I was so excited to see that my thread had jumped to three pages but alas only two posts on the topic 
I was actually sitting in my kitchen last night and my wife started as king me all,these questions about how we will be able to,afford high school,and I had no idea about the process so finally I said,to,her  I am going to go to the source of all my important info ....

[ChaimMoskowitz]

So what is the process to get scholarship money? What if you can't afford to pay what they say you should pay. Will your child be turned away?

[shwarmabob]

I was so excited to see that my thread had jumped to three pages but alas only two posts on the topic 
I was actually sitting in my kitchen last night and my wife started as king me all,these questions about how we will be able to,afford high school,and I had no idea about the process so finally I said,to,her  I am going to go to the source of all my important info ....

apply for financial aid. apply to more than one school.

[sky121]

I was so excited to see that my thread had jumped to three pages but alas only two posts on the topic 
I was actually sitting in my kitchen last night and my wife started as king me all,these questions about how we will be able to,afford high school,and I had no idea about the process so finally I said,to,her  I am going to go to the source of all my important info ....

I think a lot of answers depend on the community you live in and where you are sending him to Yeshiva.
But the general help would just be applying for scholarships and trying to work something out with the school.

[yakrot]

Any school that I have dealt with acceptance was unrelated to tuition (I'm not saying the promise of full tuition has never helped anyone get accepted).... There is a faher process and once it's decided that you were accepted you are then told to speak with whoever is in charge of tuition

[yochiek93]

How much are they asking for, you can sit down with them they are human also and have kids to they are on both sides of the desk

[grodnoking]

So what is the process to get scholarship money? What if you can't afford to pay what they say you should pay. Will your child be turned away?

There are many people (called askanim) who work day and night to make sure all kids get into schools. If a school is turning your son away when it its impossible to pay much, you probably dont want to send your kid there anyways, because it means they have the wrong way of understanding what we are all about.