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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #520 on: December 01, 2015, 01:25:21 AM »
At this point I'm so confused!! Can someone please make a wiki with who's arguing with who.

Only thing I think I understand is that yochiek93 thinks that until the perpetrators themselves have admitted wrongdoing (or mistake making,however you look at it) nobody has any right to believe other ppl or rabanim that insist there was wrongdoing (or mistake making).
I have such a headache trying to figure out if anyone is actually arguing about the case or just arguing about whether to argue
Actually sorry to say but you don't understand me either
But I'm done with this thread

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #521 on: December 01, 2015, 01:28:11 AM »

Actually sorry to say but you don't understand me either
But I'm done with this thread
darn I thought I had at least that, oh well.

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #522 on: December 01, 2015, 01:31:59 AM »

I'm actually not saying anything pro or against the heter all I'm saying is don't bad mouth rabbonim when you think you know a story that you don't that's the end of it as I posted earlier I'm not a posek to judge this case so I will not judge but to say something against rabbonim that is intolerable
.  I think I figured out my mistake you may believe what you want but to then badmouth rabanim based on this belief which isn't %100 verifiable is wrong...chazara is the ikur

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #523 on: December 01, 2015, 01:32:58 AM »
.  I think I figured out my mistake you may believe what you want but to then badmouth rabanim based on this belief which isn't %100 verifiable is wrong...chazara is the ikur

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #525 on: December 01, 2015, 08:09:26 AM »
It sure looks like something not kosher happened but people's first impressions may very well be wrong.  People were bashing Rav shmuel and it is not clear how much he was involved.  The wind is blowing differently now and people are busy bashing his son. Were they wrong to bash him?  Maybe

How many rabbonim actually investigated the situation before they wrote their letters?  Who exactly did the eida speak to?  Do you think they called r' nota or r' sholom? I doubt it!  How about some of the other letter writers? I get the impression they are just screaming without actua,ly knowing for sure any of the facts

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #526 on: December 01, 2015, 08:56:00 AM »
I think things are starting to make sense-

It sure looks like something not kosher happened but people's first impressions may very well be wrong.  People were bashing Rav shmuel and it is not clear how much he was involved.  The wind is blowing differently now and people are busy bashing his son. Were they wrong to bash him?  Maybe

It might be wrong to bash R' Sholom.

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How many rabbonim actually investigated the situation before they wrote their letters?  Who exactly did the eida speak to?  Do you think they called r' nota or r' sholom? I doubt it!  How about some of the other letter writers? I get the impression they are just screaming without actua,ly knowing for sure any of the facts

But its 100% fine to bash other rabbis.


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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #527 on: December 01, 2015, 09:00:08 AM »
It sure looks like something not kosher happened but people's first impressions may very well be wrong.  People were bashing Rav shmuel and it is not clear how much he was involved.  The wind is blowing differently now and people are busy bashing his son. Were they wrong to bash him?  Maybe

How many rabbonim actually investigated the situation before they wrote their letters?  Who exactly did the eida speak to?  Do you think they called r' nota or r' sholom? I doubt it!  How about some of the other letter writers? I get the impression they are just screaming without actua,ly knowing for sure any of the facts
I think things are starting to make sense-

It might be wrong to bash R' Sholom.

But its 100% fine to bash other rabbis.



I have not seen rabbonim bashing R sholom in their letters however strongly they feel there is no heter in this case except for one letter from Monsey written by someone who I never heard of and while he may be a talmid chochom is not likely to be on the caliber of those who did not go bashing people but only the heter.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #528 on: December 01, 2015, 09:28:45 AM »
I think things are starting to make sense-

It might be wrong to bash R' Sholom.

But its 100% fine to bash other rabbis.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #529 on: December 01, 2015, 10:20:56 AM »




How many rabbonim actually investigated the situation before they wrote their letters?  Who exactly did the eida speak to?  Do you think they called r' nota or r' sholom? I doubt it!  How about some of the other letter writers? I get the impression they are just screaming without actua,ly knowing for sure any of the facts
The eida relied on the investigation of hisachdus after independently corroborating the facts. They also heard the "other side" , as is indicated in the letter to the badatz from the hisachdus. The eida has a very solid reputation.
R Aharon Feldman writes that he investigated this, as did everyone else.

To write that chosheve rabbonim are "just screaming without knowing the facts" is very very wrong.


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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #530 on: December 01, 2015, 03:21:14 PM »
How many rabbonim who signed letters do you think actually spoke to both r' nota and r' sholom to understand what the basis for the heter was and whether it was legitimate?

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #531 on: December 01, 2015, 03:31:02 PM »
How many rabbonim who signed letters do you think actually spoke to both r' nota and r' sholom to understand what the basis for the heter was and whether it was legitimate?

It should have been the opposite way. R"N is in no way qualified to pasken such a heter on his own without involving at least some renowned poskim.
The facts that have been revealed since, shed light on a case where they issued a sham heter and therefore went into hiding.

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #532 on: December 01, 2015, 04:57:02 PM »
It should have been the opposite way. R"N is in no way qualified to pasken such a heter on his own without involving at least some renowned poskim.

+1
If it takes me'ah rabbonim to mattir a husband to remarry (Takanas R' Gershom), it should take at least the same for an issur min hatorah, eshes ish.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #533 on: December 01, 2015, 05:45:50 PM »
+1
If it takes me'ah rabbonim to mattir a husband to remarry (Takanas R' Gershom), it should take at least the same for an issur min hatorah, eshes ish.
Bad example.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #534 on: December 01, 2015, 05:47:33 PM »
+1
If it takes me'ah rabbonim to mattir a husband to remarry (Takanas R' Gershom), it should take at least the same for an issur min hatorah, eshes ish.
actually in many cases thats not the way it works. "Asu chachamim chizuk l'divrayhaem yoser mi shel torah" thats a klal found in many places over shas including seder noshim
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #535 on: December 01, 2015, 06:11:38 PM »
+1
If it takes me'ah rabbonim to mattir a husband to remarry (Takanas R' Gershom), it should take at least the same for an issur min hatorah, eshes ish.
Bad example.
His point is still true, this is not the type of shayla that would normally be paskened by an individual posek. R Nota himself wrote that his opinion was dependent upon others joining with him.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #536 on: December 01, 2015, 06:32:25 PM »
actually in many cases thats not the way it works. "Asu chachamim chizuk l'divrayhaem yoser mi shel torah" thats a klal found in many places over shas including seder noshim

True, I gave a bad example. But still-
To create a heter for a deoraysa should be harder than using a heter for a derabanan.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #537 on: December 01, 2015, 06:52:12 PM »
You mean like matiring an animal when you have a shaila that it might be a traifa?

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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #538 on: December 01, 2015, 06:58:52 PM »
True, I gave a bad example. But still-
To create a heter for a deoraysa should be harder than using a heter for a derabanan.
There is a huge difference. Heter meah rabbanim is saying that the original issur is still there, but disregard it. This is saying that the issur was taken care of.
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Re: The Tamar Epstein Saga
« Reply #539 on: December 01, 2015, 06:59:48 PM »
You mean like matiring an animal when you have a shaila that it might be a traifa?

Not at all.
If a heter exists to be matir, then no, you're not creating the heter.
This eshes ish heter never existed until now. And unlike treif,
this is also a heter that needs to be continuously relied on, for as long as they stay "married".
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