Maybe you need to get to different poskim. Being very involved in psak halacha in Lakewood I find that YMMV depending on whom you ask.
You mean to tell me there is someone on par with R' Moshe in Lakewood today? Someone who issues piskei halacha without fear and without being machmir "just to be on the safe side". Doubt it, your "involvement in psak halacha in Lakewood" notwithstanding.
I have my poskim. I also know some of the bigger poskim today who waffle and cannot give you a straight yes or no when that is what is required.