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Initiative to lower the standards:   https://simchainitiative.org/

Mishpacha Article link:                     https://mishpacha.com/at-all-costs/
                                                     https://mishpacha.com/at-all-costs-the-conversation-continues-2/

Jewish Pr. Interview W/R Reisman   https://www.jewishpress.com/indepth/interviews-and-profiles/over-1300-sign-pledge-to-hold-simpler-weddings-an-interview-with-rav-yisroel-reisman-rosh-yeshiva-of-torah-vodaath/2020/05/13/

Some interesting articles covering the guidelines from similar efforts 20 years ago

https://agudah.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/JO2002-V35-N06.pdf  page 10 article by Prof. Aaron Twerski
https://agudah.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/JO2006-V39-N041.pdf page 43 article by R Aryeh Zev Ginzberg
https://www.nytimes.com/2002/05/25/us/religion-journal-a-big-wedding-with-a-smaller-bill.html
« Last edited by David61 on May 28, 2020, 06:29:23 PM »

Poll

Wedding expenses in the frum community

Thank G-d for simchas
12 (6%)
This has gotten out of hand and a remedy is needed
150 (75%)
It's a problem but has always been this way and we'll manage as we have till now
38 (19%)

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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #960 on: March 07, 2024, 12:41:06 PM »
Quote from: free123cc on March 07, 2024, 11:21:23 AM
so what did he want them to tone down?

Being a happy kid who is happy with what he has and not pressured about money?
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #961 on: March 07, 2024, 01:18:53 PM »
Quote from: yfr bachur on March 07, 2024, 12:41:06 PM
Being a happy kid who is happy with what he has and not pressured about money?
definately  not. Either the rebbe is an idiot and just wanted to mussar the "rich Americans/ballebatim  " or your SIL is clueless about whats considered extravavagent in that community. In my kids school you're not allowed to bring fancy nosh such as cornflakes bec. it can make others jealous. (That may be an old outdated rule but  you get the idea)
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #962 on: March 07, 2024, 01:24:15 PM »
Quote from: rbs-g1.5 on March 07, 2024, 01:18:53 PM
definately  not. Either the rebbe is an idiot and just wanted to mussar the "rich Americans/ballebatim  " or your SIL is clueless about whats considered extravavagent in that community. In my kids school you're not allowed to bring fancy nosh such as cornflakes bec. it can make others jealous. (That may be an old outdated rule but  you get the idea)

Not oblivious. Both parents grew up here, her kids looks, acts, eats, and has possessions like every other kid in the neighborhood. Its not a Chutznik neighborhood where there's problems between the has chutznikim and the has not israelis
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #963 on: March 07, 2024, 01:27:13 PM »
Quote from: yfr bachur on March 07, 2024, 01:24:15 PM
Not oblivious. Both parents grew up here, her kids looks, acts, eats, and has possessions like every other kid in the neighborhood. Its not a Chutznik neighborhood where there's problems between the has chutznikim and the has not israelis
so option number 1
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #964 on: March 07, 2024, 01:30:37 PM »
Quote from: rbs-g1.5 on March 07, 2024, 01:27:13 PM
so option number 1

Not americans/chutznekim... not baalie batim...
Rebbe being an idiot? possible.
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #965 on: March 07, 2024, 06:14:43 PM »
Quote from: yfr bachur on March 07, 2024, 04:24:25 AM
But what do you do when all the Shadchanim and Rabbanim and so on tell you suck it up "lmaan Hashalom" and no one is willing to go to the other side and or their rabbanim and make it clear that the demands are unreasonable.


Quote from: WonderingYid on March 06, 2024, 06:44:23 PM
Some people need to grow a pair...
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
« Reply #966 on: March 10, 2024, 09:03:42 PM »
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Re: POLL: Wedding expenses in the frum Community - BH for simchos? or out of hand?
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