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Author Topic: Going/Gone through 11 Months at the Amud? (All others proceed with caution...)  (Read 3566 times)

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At least when I was saying kaddish I felt like I was doing something for my Mom. When I woke up the day after it was like...Now What?....
That is the reason we say kaddish for 11 month, if we did it for less we would forget them sooner. Doing good deeds in the honor of you parents is a good thing even after 11 month.

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At least when I was saying kaddish I felt like I was doing something for my Mom. When I woke up the day after it was like...Now What?....
That is the reason we say kaddish for 11 month, if we did it for less we would forget them sooner. Doing good deeds in the honor of you parents is a good thing even after 11 month.
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Oh c'mon, It is not THAT bad.
@ayagart, if indeed you still have nine months for the amud, you've ain't seen anything yet. I seriously wish you good luck. I went through this not long ago and times came when I felt I just couldn't take it anymore.


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At least when I was saying kaddish I felt like I was doing something for my Mom. When I woke up the day after it was like...Now What?....
I know quite a few people who were lax about davening with a minyan, who got to appreciate it while serving time at the Omud and kept on going.

I personally started answering אמן etc. louder, as I got an appreciation of what it means to be at the Omud and feel like you're davening in a בית החיים where you can hear no feedback.
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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I've found no place as good as 770 for getting a minyan at odd times. Though it does have some challenging times like ליל פורים if you're not there בזמנה.
Or 10 minutes after any fasts end...

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I know quite a few people who were lax about davening with a minyan, who got to appreciate it while serving time at the Omud and kept on going.
I heard a line once, תפילות, אבות תקנום.

Many Chabad house minyanim started because the shliach or a community member had to say kaddish.
I don't sin, I give myself opportunities to repent.

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I personally started answering אמן etc. louder, as I got an appreciation of what it means to be at the Omud and feel like you're davening in a בית החיים where you can hear no feedback.

True feel the same on that.

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Or 10 minutes after any fasts end...
However unlike most other shuls you can actually get a minyan together in 770 even late after a fast.
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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A pet-peeve of mine when you have been in Shul for a while pulling together your Minyan, and another Chiyuv who comes later, starts pulling theirs at the same time. If they get 5 first, they start, pulling the 4 that you already had, and you gotta start all over again.

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A pet-peeve of mine when you have been in Shul for a while pulling together your Minyan, and another Chiyuv who comes later, starts pulling theirs at the same time. If they get 5 first, they start, pulling the 4 that you already had, and you gotta start all over again.
Aka another chiyuv who isn't a mensch. There are many ways that comes out.
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The following post and on was split off to a new topic, please continue the discussion there
One thing I did when I was an avel (and am trying to continue) is leave my cellphone at home or in my car.  I found that I davened better.  - even if the cellphone is totally turned off if it was in my pocket it was a distraction.  I figured if I am going to daven for the amud for 11 months, let me at least try to daven like a mentsh.
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