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Did you ever yell at your spouse?

Yes and I'm Male
31 (50.8%)
Yes and I'm Female
3 (4.9%)
No and I'm Male
26 (42.6%)
No and I'm Female
1 (1.6%)

Total Members Voted: 61

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #60 on: August 09, 2021, 09:30:11 AM »
I'm not sure if you're aware (I'd need to search DDF to see if you sent me condolences) that I am in the year of mourning after the passing of a parent. It is customary that for 11 months a mourner leads prayer services (and even when not, like on Shabbos or days like today and tomorrow - a celebration of new month, Kaddish is still recited by the mourners).

You've been to 770, but not when it was fully crowded. I've had people who stay in the back for services mention to me that they appreciate when I lead services or recite Kaddish in the front, as they can hear it loud and clear.

If I haven't said it before - sorry for your loss.

Going OT for a moment:
 I, like you, suffer from loud person disease. When my mother passed away, and I started saying kaddish, someone in my shul came over to me and explained to me as the loudest person in the room, it was my job to take over and keep people in sync - i.e. help set the pace for kaddish so that we were all saying it in unison. As I thought about it, I took it on as a personal responsibility.

My shul has a lot of people who are ba'alei teshuva. If your hebrew/aramaic language skills aren't strong- the words of kaddish can be daunting. When those people came to shul after shiva, I made a deliberate effort to slow down to help them acclimate. Many of them thanked me afterwords.

My point - G-d made me loud in order to use my volume to help others

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #61 on: August 09, 2021, 03:17:21 PM »
Everyone in my family yelled.. 10 kids keh and always a screaming baby.

I get loud and animated when discussing things I'm passionate about and now all grown, when siblings are together we are very loud!

I never had a spouse to yell at ;)

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #62 on: August 10, 2021, 12:15:37 AM »
Why wait until you realize you did something? As soon as you see s/he feels hurt apologize even without that!

That is generally when one realizes it - in other words, often in a discussion, one party, frustrated (often for other reasons entirely - end of a hard day etc.), responds more loudly than intended, and only realizes it on noticing the other party's reaction.

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #63 on: August 10, 2021, 12:18:44 AM »
That is generally when one realizes it - in other words, often in a discussion, one party, frustrated (often for other reasons entirely - end of a hard day etc.), responds more loudly than intended, and only realizes it on noticing the other party's reaction.
I can see why women might think that
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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #64 on: August 10, 2021, 12:19:06 AM »
"No and I'm Female" is here so DDF isn't a sexists place :D

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #65 on: August 10, 2021, 09:39:18 AM »
I can see why women might think that

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #66 on: August 10, 2021, 09:48:13 AM »
"No and I'm Female" is here so DDF isn't a sexists place :D

There are 2 types of people. Those who have yelled at their spouse... and liars.

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #67 on: August 11, 2021, 07:49:59 AM »
Can we have an option "Yes, but she really deserved it"?

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #68 on: August 11, 2021, 09:13:19 AM »
Can we have an option "Yes, but she really deserved it"?
Only if she posts it.  :P
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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #69 on: August 11, 2021, 09:57:32 AM »
I don't have a spouse.

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #70 on: June 14, 2022, 12:00:33 AM »
Could we allow changing answers to allow for Euclid to update his response?

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Re: Did you ever yell at your spouse?
« Reply #71 on: June 14, 2022, 12:04:15 AM »
Fun fact: 100% of women polled on DDF have yelled at their spouse, while only 57% on men said the same.

And now you see how statistics work.
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