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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #105 on: January 08, 2017, 05:11:02 PM »
Thanks for the help here and via PM about childbirth. I can see that being difficult.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #106 on: January 08, 2017, 05:33:22 PM »
Id say childbirth was probably the hardest...especially if she has a really long and painful labor. JTZ- I believe the psychological aspect of all of it is what makes it harder than the physical but that's just my opinion.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #107 on: January 08, 2017, 06:11:55 PM »
For starters there are parts that I think are true.
I do think that T"M is definitely good for the marriage.
But I do agree that disagreements had during the ~12 days that would be far smoother with just the ability to touch each other.
-1 it might be easier in the short run but in the long run not, as the woman will think that you don't really care for her... nothing makes her feel like you care for her like sincere words that have nothing to do with love...and only then during the Mutar period will she appreciate the touching once she knows you already sincerely love and care for her. There's a reason why a woman is assur after labor and there's a reason why non-Jews/frum usually have such a a terribile marriage and such a high devorce rate.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #108 on: January 08, 2017, 06:13:36 PM »
-1 it might be easier in the short run but in the long run not, as the woman will think that you don't really care for her... nothing makes her feel like you care for her like sincere words that have nothing to do with love...and only then during the Mutar period will she appreciate the touching once she knows you already sincerely love and care for her. There's a reason why a woman is assur after labor.

+1 wow never heard it from that perspective
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #109 on: January 08, 2017, 06:16:29 PM »
-1 it might be easier in the short run but in the long run not, as the woman will think that you don't really care for her... nothing makes her feel like you care for her like sincere words that have nothing to do with love...and only then during the Mutar period will she appreciate the touching once she knows you already sincerely love and care for her. There's a reason why a woman is assur after labor.
+1 A huge benefit is putting in to perspective that marriage is so much more than the physical. It really forces you into it.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #110 on: January 08, 2017, 06:20:00 PM »
Not to get into the details of what's better or not or what's easier or not etc but at the end of the day if you're not happy,  adhering to these laws and others as well tend to just be hard and as seen as only a burden. I think many people are unhappy to begin with.     That's not to say you can't be a happy individual and have a hard time with certain aspects or even a big issue with them. But I do think many people are really just unhappy about other things to begin with.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #111 on: January 08, 2017, 06:20:06 PM »
it might be easier in the short run but in the long run not
That's fine and true, but it doesn't make the short run easy.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #112 on: January 08, 2017, 06:21:04 PM »
That's fine and true, but it doesn't make the short run easy.
But at the end of the day none of this is really about the short run
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #113 on: January 08, 2017, 06:21:40 PM »
But at the end of the day none of this is really about the short run

Hence

I do think that T"M is definitely good for the marriage.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #114 on: January 08, 2017, 06:24:41 PM »
That's fine and true, but it doesn't make the short run easy.
Agreed. But a happy healthy marriage is not always supposed to be easy, it's through the uneasy times that build a marriage.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #115 on: January 08, 2017, 06:24:56 PM »
that. in yerushalayim they are more makpid cmiiw
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #116 on: January 08, 2017, 06:38:18 PM »
On the other hand it is assur to hit her then too :-X
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #117 on: January 08, 2017, 06:39:20 PM »
On the other hand it is assur to hit her then too :-X
That's what makes the short run so difficult
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #118 on: January 08, 2017, 06:47:21 PM »
On the other hand it is assur to hit her then too :-X
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #119 on: January 08, 2017, 06:52:10 PM »
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