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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #120 on: January 08, 2017, 07:14:40 PM »
  Also the average couple between pregnancies and birth control don't have it too often. (Unless you have a stringent Rabbi)

No 12 days?

Some say you can use a stick  :P

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #121 on: January 08, 2017, 07:20:12 PM »
On the other hand it is assur to hit her then too :-X

It's only assur derech chiba...
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #122 on: January 08, 2017, 07:22:00 PM »
It's only assur derech chiba...

Don't abusers say "I only hit you because I love you so much"?

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #123 on: January 08, 2017, 07:23:35 PM »
Didn't read the entire article yet or any of this thread but they lost me once "David" accuses anyone who doesnt agree with him and has a positive view of t"m as faking.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #124 on: January 08, 2017, 07:24:48 PM »
Didn't read the entire article yet or any of this thread but they lost me once "David" accuses anyone who doesnt agree with him and has a positive view of t"m as faking.
That's just typical liberalism.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #125 on: January 08, 2017, 07:26:58 PM »
That's just typical liberalism.
I know and as I've lamented before things like that just destroy any chance at productive discourse.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #126 on: January 08, 2017, 07:27:01 PM »
Also the average couple between pregnancies and pregnant right after nursing don't have it too often.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #127 on: January 08, 2017, 07:51:07 PM »
(I think the PC is slowing down...)
I could change that but this subject just doesn't feel right.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #128 on: January 08, 2017, 07:57:42 PM »

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #129 on: January 08, 2017, 07:58:13 PM »



But I do agree that disagreements had during the ~12 days that would be far smoother with just the ability to touch each other.

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It forces you to work on the relationship without using touch as a crutch.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #130 on: January 08, 2017, 07:59:38 PM »
I could change that but this subject just doesn't feel right.
+1. I appreciate your consideration. Thanks.
You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used to start a religious discussion.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #131 on: January 08, 2017, 08:00:04 PM »
if people are saying it "wrecks everything" they need to ask a shaila.

They also need to see a shrink  :-*
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Or at least get serious marital therapy.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #132 on: January 08, 2017, 08:00:33 PM »
I think part of the problem is the overemphasis of the "good for your marriage" idea. We don't keep TM because of the benefits, just like we don't eat only kosher because it's "cleaner"
But the benefits are true.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #133 on: January 08, 2017, 08:01:33 PM »
I could change that but this subject just doesn't feel right.
+1
Who do you think you are fooling? You think you are going to pull a quick one on your Creator? Good luck with that.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #134 on: January 08, 2017, 08:04:10 PM »

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It forces you to work on the relationship without using touch as a crutch.
Seems like everyone has the same soundbite.
Yes, it's arguably better longterm for the relationship. It doesn't mean that it doesn't make things more difficult in the short term.
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