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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #90 on: January 08, 2017, 04:30:35 PM »
We had separate keys for everything but I know what you mean.
How does that help when she can never find her keys, and always asks for yours  ;)
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #91 on: January 08, 2017, 04:31:28 PM »
Maybe she was wearing white?
Then they deserve it?  :-X I don't even consider that a possibility

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #92 on: January 08, 2017, 04:31:50 PM »
How does that help when she can never find her keys, and always asks for yours  ;)
Don't even go there or this will turn into PC!  >:(
"LESS IS MORE" It is the cumulative effect that kills deals!!! How many times do I have to say this?  >:(

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #93 on: January 08, 2017, 04:33:14 PM »
Don't even go there or this will turn into PC!  >:(
After all, it is deeply rooted in PC. But I'll allow you to start a separate thread on those kinds of issues - מכובד!
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #94 on: January 08, 2017, 04:38:01 PM »
"LESS IS MORE" It is the cumulative effect that kills deals!!! How many times do I have to say this?  >:(

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #95 on: January 08, 2017, 04:39:05 PM »
Should've found a more lenient Rabbi  :-X
Was thinking same thing.
If you don't care why would you comment?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #96 on: January 08, 2017, 04:39:27 PM »
Ultimately I think the misconception is the idea that the Torah is a set of restrictions rather than the ultimate guidebook to a life of happiness from the creator of the universe (and the human psyche). To think following emotional whims will make you happier than following Halacha is childish. That's not to say it's not difficult and people can fail but it's the attitude that's the issue. On a practical level I don't really believe the person in the article saying he is happier holding his wife every night. It's scientifically proven that it's the contrast to pain that causes pleasure ( e.g. going from a state of Niddah to Tahara). See how long it takes for whatever benefit he senses now to fizzle.

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #97 on: January 08, 2017, 04:42:52 PM »
But I do agree that disagreements had during the ~12 days that would be far smoother with just the ability to touch each other.
Post wedding night and childbirth are for sure the hardest. Also the average couple between pregnancies and birth control don't have it too often. (Unless you have a stringent Rabbi)

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #98 on: January 08, 2017, 04:45:07 PM »
The most sensible part of the article is the last sentence. Everything else is nonsense.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #99 on: January 08, 2017, 04:46:11 PM »
On a practical level I don't really believe the person in the article saying he is happier holding his wife every night. It's scientifically proven that it's the contrast to pain that causes pleasure ( e.g. going from a state of Niddah to Tahara). See how long it takes for whatever benefit he senses now to fizzle.
Different things work for different people.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #100 on: January 08, 2017, 04:48:37 PM »
Rav was metamei based on staining was a reiyah?
that. in yerushalayim they are more makpid cmiiw
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #101 on: January 08, 2017, 04:49:13 PM »
Post wedding night and childbirth are for sure the hardest.
Someone want to clue me in on the childbirth part?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #102 on: January 08, 2017, 04:51:27 PM »
Who do you think you are fooling? You think you are going to pull a quick one on your Creator? Good luck with that.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #103 on: January 08, 2017, 04:53:20 PM »
Then they deserve it?  :-X I don't even consider that a possibility
There is a chasam sofer that some understand that way.
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If you don't care why would you comment?
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