Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...

[Dan]

http://messageinabottle-cs.blogspot.com/2013/04/the-jelly-bean-jar-theory-of-marriage.html

Meh.

12-14 days of no touching means that there is always a healthy desire when it's over. That's why I do think that TM is healthy for marriage. Doesn't mean it's not a challenge or hard at times though.

[JTZ]

12-14 days of no touching means that there is always a healthy desire when it's over.

You will get over it, just wait. 

[Dan]

You will get over it, just wait. 

Yes or no, have you ever gone 12-14 days without so much as a touch?
Care to try?

[JTZ]

Yes or no, have you ever gone 12-14 days without so much as a touch?
Care to try?

Tons of times.
You probably mean when we are both home?

[Dan]

Tons of times.
You probably mean when we are both home?

Indeed.

[Luvtotravel]

I think part of the problem is the overemphasis of the "good for your marriage" idea. We don't keep TM because of the benefits, just like we don't eat only kosher because it's "cleaner"

I second this. definitely has its fair share of frustrations (think botched honeymoon) but overall, despite it being a halachic no-other-option, it definitely does something to reignite. how many of us haven't gone weeks during pregnancy without...

[JTZ]

Indeed.

A lot of times with no real physical contact (hugging/kissing/ect). Actually not touching like when handing something to her/me I can't really say.

[churnbabychurn]

תניא היה ר"מ אומר

מפני מה אמרה תורה נדה לשבעה

מפני שרגיל בה וקץ בה

אמרה תורה

תהא טמאה שבעה ימים כדי שתהא חביבה על בעלה כשעת כניסתה לחופה

[JTZ]

(think botched honeymoon)

Ouch!!!

[Dan]

I second this. definitely has its fair share of frustrations (think botched honeymoon) but overall, despite it being a halachic no-other-option, it definitely does something to reignite. how many of us haven't gone weeks during pregnancy without...

Don't even get me started on botched vacations 

[Dan]

A lot of times with no real physical contact (hugging/kissing/ect). Actually not touching like when handing something to her/me I can't really say.

When you try 12-14 days with zero touching period, while in the same city, let us know

[Luvtotravel]

Ouch!!!

indeed. if you would only know the ramifications other than in the bedroom...

[Luvtotravel]

Don't even get me started on botched vacations 

we should start a "war stories" thread

[coralsnake]

Ouch!!!

What about botched wedding night?

[Dan]

תניא היה ר"מ אומר

מפני מה אמרה תורה נדה לשבעה

מפני שרגיל בה וקץ בה

אמרה תורה

תהא טמאה שבעה ימים כדי שתהא חביבה על בעלה כשעת כניסתה לחופה

I think part of the problem is the overemphasis of the "good for your marriage" idea. We don't keep TM because of the benefits, just like we don't eat only kosher because it's "cleaner"

True. But I do think most frum Jews do believe that TM is helpful overall to the health of their marriage just like they believe that Shabbos is good for their sanity.
At least I do.