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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #30 on: January 08, 2017, 03:32:33 PM »
http://messageinabottle-cs.blogspot.com/2013/04/the-jelly-bean-jar-theory-of-marriage.html
Meh.

12-14 days of no touching means that there is always a healthy desire when it's over. That's why I do think that TM is healthy for marriage. Doesn't mean it's not a challenge or hard at times though.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #31 on: January 08, 2017, 03:34:15 PM »
12-14 days of no touching means that there is always a healthy desire when it's over.
You will get over it, just wait.  :)
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #32 on: January 08, 2017, 03:35:03 PM »
You will get over it, just wait.  :)
Yes or no, have you ever gone 12-14 days without so much as a touch?
Care to try?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #33 on: January 08, 2017, 03:36:00 PM »
Yes or no, have you ever gone 12-14 days without so much as a touch?
Care to try?
Tons of times.
You probably mean when we are both home?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #34 on: January 08, 2017, 03:42:04 PM »
Tons of times.
You probably mean when we are both home?
Indeed.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #35 on: January 08, 2017, 03:44:52 PM »
I think part of the problem is the overemphasis of the "good for your marriage" idea. We don't keep TM because of the benefits, just like we don't eat only kosher because it's "cleaner"
I second this. definitely has its fair share of frustrations (think botched honeymoon) but overall, despite it being a halachic no-other-option, it definitely does something to reignite. how many of us haven't gone weeks during pregnancy without...
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #36 on: January 08, 2017, 03:45:15 PM »
Indeed.
A lot of times with no real physical contact (hugging/kissing/ect). Actually not touching like when handing something to her/me I can't really say.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #37 on: January 08, 2017, 03:45:25 PM »
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #38 on: January 08, 2017, 03:45:50 PM »
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #39 on: January 08, 2017, 03:46:48 PM »
I second this. definitely has its fair share of frustrations (think botched honeymoon) but overall, despite it being a halachic no-other-option, it definitely does something to reignite. how many of us haven't gone weeks during pregnancy without...
Don't even get me started on botched vacations  :-*
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #40 on: January 08, 2017, 03:47:17 PM »
A lot of times with no real physical contact (hugging/kissing/ect). Actually not touching like when handing something to her/me I can't really say.
When you try 12-14 days with zero touching period, while in the same city, let us know :)
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #41 on: January 08, 2017, 03:47:47 PM »
Ouch!!!
indeed. if you would only know the ramifications other than in the bedroom...
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #42 on: January 08, 2017, 03:48:32 PM »
Don't even get me started on botched vacations  :-*
we should start a "war stories" thread
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #43 on: January 08, 2017, 03:48:43 PM »
Ouch!!!
What about botched wedding night?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #44 on: January 08, 2017, 03:48:46 PM »
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I think part of the problem is the overemphasis of the "good for your marriage" idea. We don't keep TM because of the benefits, just like we don't eat only kosher because it's "cleaner"
True. But I do think most frum Jews do believe that TM is helpful overall to the health of their marriage just like they believe that Shabbos is good for their sanity.
At least I do.
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