Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...

[ExGingi]

In general, even in the US, chassidishe mikva lady's perform a full and intrusive examination for chatziza as opposed to the casual glance done by others...

DW's trauma was not about that.

Imagine being used to going only into an upscale hotel bathroom, and having to go to a youth hostel bathroom instead.

[Dawie]

DW's trauma was not about that.

Imagine being used to going only into an upscale hotel bathroom, and having to go to a youth hostel bathroom instead.

+100

[Dawie]

of course it wasn't a honeymoon in the traditional sense as in right after wedding!

Either i'm missing info or i have a diff LOR
I'm am baffled at a lot of aspects of your story

[Dawie]

What does that have to do with re/oceans?

My LOR said you can go in a loose robe and also wear flip flops to cover the chatzitza fro the sand issue and when dipping make sure nothing is touching
(shoes and clothes)
The hardest part in alot of places is going out deep enough and still being safe... (unless you can get a LOR to allow the next day...)

[Dan]

My LOR said you can go in a loose robe and also wear flip flops to cover the chatzitza fro the sand issue and when dipping make sure nothing is touching
(shoes and clothes)
The hardest part in alot of places is going out deep enough and still being safe... (unless you can get a LOR to allow the next day...)

How can you wear a robe and have it not touch you?

[Dawie]

How can you wear a robe and have it not touch you?

loose and thin,
not ideal but the LOR said it would work  and wouldn't be a chatzitza

[Moshe123]

How can you wear a robe and have it not touch you?

water gets through

[as2]

water gets through

Water getting through doesn't necessarily mean it's OK...

[ExGingi]

Maybe South African LOR's have different standards

[Dawie]

Maybe South African LOR's have different standards

actually was a Lakewood one and confirmed by others
but who's counting
also in the "good old days" (maybe @yehuda57 would remember what that might mean) in SA there wasn;t necessarily a (kosher)  mikva  in all the summer spots and many people used the sea IIHC

[MC]

So much to say . . . sheesh.

I once saw a great TED talk speaking about the secret to a long term relationship. The speaker had a Jewish name, but was clearly not religious. However, what she described (balancing between familiarity and mystery) sounded a whole lot like Nidda to me.

I'll try to find it and link.

ETA: here it is

[JTZ]

So much to say . . . sheesh.

Let it rip. 

[12HRS]

Let it rip. 

she has to be careful. her husband might read it

[sam123]

So much to say . . . sheesh.

I once saw a great TED talk speaking about the secret to a long term relationship. The speaker had a Jewish name, but was clearly not religious. However, what she described (balancing between familiarity and mystery) sounded a whole lot like Nidda to me.

I'll try to find it and link.

This one?
https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship/transcript?language=en

[MC]

This one?
https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship/transcript?language=en

Yup, just added to my post above.

[Moshe123]

Water getting through doesn't necessarily mean it's OK...

You want to explain your argument in halacha?

[Dan]

loose and thin,
not ideal but the LOR said it would work  and wouldn't be a chatzitza

Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.

[as2]

You want to explain your argument in halacha?

Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.

[Dawie]

Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.

were you told it wasn;t? or you weren;t told it was an option

[dealfinder85]

Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.

the gemora talks about cases like that, especially when they needed to tovel their clothes too