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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #210 on: January 09, 2017, 10:12:06 AM »
So much to say . . . sheesh.

I once saw a great TED talk speaking about the secret to a long term relationship. The speaker had a Jewish name, but was clearly not religious. However, what she described (balancing between familiarity and mystery) sounded a whole lot like Nidda to me.

I'll try to find it and link.

ETA: here it is
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #211 on: January 09, 2017, 10:14:33 AM »
So much to say . . . sheesh.
Let it rip.  :)
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #212 on: January 09, 2017, 10:15:58 AM »
Let it rip.  :)

she has to be careful. her husband might read it

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #213 on: January 09, 2017, 10:16:21 AM »
So much to say . . . sheesh.

I once saw a great TED talk speaking about the secret to a long term relationship. The speaker had a Jewish name, but was clearly not religious. However, what she described (balancing between familiarity and mystery) sounded a whole lot like Nidda to me.

I'll try to find it and link.

This one?
https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship/transcript?language=en

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #215 on: January 09, 2017, 10:27:03 AM »
Water getting through doesn't necessarily mean it's OK...

You want to explain your argument in halacha?

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #216 on: January 09, 2017, 10:28:24 AM »
loose and thin,
not ideal but the LOR said it would work  and wouldn't be a chatzitza
Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #217 on: January 09, 2017, 10:34:54 AM »
You want to explain your argument in halacha?

Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #218 on: January 09, 2017, 11:14:01 AM »
Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.
were you told it wasn;t? or you weren;t told it was an option

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #219 on: January 09, 2017, 11:17:09 AM »
Interesting, wasn't told that was a viable option when I asked.
the gemora talks about cases like that, especially when they needed to tovel their clothes too

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #220 on: January 09, 2017, 11:18:22 AM »

i'll attempt
#1 it's loose so it doesn;t neccessarily have to touch anywhere
#2 even if it does since it's tofiach al menas l'hatfiach (or even a step better than that), Hashaka will transfer the water to every part it needs to
obviously this isn;t something to rely upon l'chatchila, but then the question isn;t about L'chatchila

@dan would you use a Mikva that wasn;t bor al gabei bor beshas hadechak?

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #222 on: January 09, 2017, 12:19:56 PM »
i'll attempt
#1 it's loose so it doesn;t neccessarily have to touch anywhere
#2 even if it does since it's tofiach al menas l'hatfiach (or even a step better than that), Hashaka will transfer the water to every part it needs to
obviously this isn;t something to rely upon l'chatchila, but then the question isn;t about L'chatchila

@dan would you use a Mikva that wasn;t bor al gabei bor beshas hadechak?
I think that is what needs to be defined.

There are many things that might be acceptable, but we wouldn't do lechatchila. Is "honeymooning" or for that matter any other trip that we were willing to spend a lot (money or points) for considered enough of a sha'as hadechak?
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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #223 on: January 09, 2017, 12:25:54 PM »
I think that is what needs to be defined.

There are many things that might be acceptable, but we wouldn't do lechatchila. Is "honeymooning" or for that matter any other trip that we were willing to spend a lot (money or points) for considered enough of a sha'as hadechak?
if i pulled out the calendar made a reasonable guess (assuming vest kavu'a with a +/-1 variable )  6 months in advance booked an once in a lifetime DDF special
then all the was a change or miscalculation and instead of the week before, yom tevila came out the day we arrived...
(all babysitting arranged etc etc) yes i'd call that shas hadechak

would you use a mikva that wasn;t bor al gabei bor?

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Re: Taharas Hamishpacha Article Discussion For The Married Folk...
« Reply #224 on: January 09, 2017, 12:36:58 PM »
if i pulled out the calendar made a reasonable guess (assuming vest kavu'a with a +/-1 variable )  6 months in advance booked an once in a lifetime DDF special
then all the was a change or miscalculation and instead of the week before, yom tevila came out the day we arrived...
(all babysitting arranged etc etc) yes i'd call that shas hadechak

would you use a mikva that wasn;t bor al gabei bor?

Try making those calculations while rushing to book a glitch fare ;-)
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