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Do you think heimishe magazines should show pictures of tzniusdig women?

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #80 on: December 31, 2017, 08:44:38 AM »
Back in which day ? As far back as I can remember the papers which didn’t have it then still don’t have it and the ones which did still have it.
The official Agudah paper had pictures in the 50s, as well as many others.

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #81 on: December 31, 2017, 08:45:35 AM »
Back in which day ? As far back as I can remember the papers which didn’t have it then still don’t have it and the ones which did still have it.
I honestly don't know names. I'm sure some never did. And I know some still do. But in general things were a lot more middle of the road and 'normal'. Even when I look through old papers and magazines in my grandparents basement all I notice is how normal it seemed to show both sexes of modern and more to the right people in various settings where you rarely see those pictures today. 
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #82 on: December 31, 2017, 08:52:35 AM »
I honestly don't know names. I'm sure some never did. And I know some still do. But in general things were a lot more middle of the road and 'normal'. Even when I look through old papers and magazines in my grandparents basement all I notice is how normal it seemed to show both sexes of modern and more to the right people in various settings where you rarely see those pictures today.
I know exactly which time you’re referring to & I wouldn’t call that time “Middle of the road”. Was after the war & yiddishkeit here was at a very low point. I’ve also seen the old pictures. Women went sleeveless, uncovered hair, mixed dancing at simchas, and on & on. If you like that style better that’s your choice but that’s not “normal, middle of the road”.

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #83 on: December 31, 2017, 08:53:04 AM »
Back in the day things weren't like this.  Plenty of Jewish newspapers and magazines had pictures of men and women and I think it was perfectly fine.

I honestly think this is a situation where we are kidding ourselves into thinking it's better and more machmir to have a little girl be blotted out than realizing that this is a form of extremism that has little to do with yiddeshkeit at this point.
back in the day the NCSY had social dancing, so don't bring points from what was acceptable in the US 60 years ago when the religious community was a lot more modern than it is today because if ״back in the day״ is fair play then show me one chareidi periodical from Poland before WW1 that had pictures of women in it

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #84 on: December 31, 2017, 08:57:01 AM »
I know exactly which time you’re referring to & I wouldn’t call that time “Middle of the road”. Was after the war & yiddishkeit here was at a very low point. I’ve also seen the old pictures. Women went sleeveless, uncovered hair, mixed dancing at simchas, and on & on. If you like that style better that’s your choice but that’s not “normal, middle of the road”.

Most of the things I've seen were from the 60's and 70's.  No one was sleeveless, they didn't have mixed dancing, their hair was covered.

Just saying.  And yes as a whole our communities have gotten "stricter" about a lot of things.


I guess the question is how do you decide when to stop going that way?


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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #85 on: December 31, 2017, 08:57:42 AM »
back in the day the NCSY had social dancing, so don't bring points from what was acceptable in the US 60 years ago when the religious community was a lot more modern than it is today because if ״back in the day״ is fair play then show me one chareidi periodical from Poland before WW1 that had pictures of women in it

NCSY still has things today that someone like you seemingly wouldn't agree with. I don't know what that has to do with anything.   But fine, let's not use the back in the day points. Because back in the day women also stayed at home and raised their kids and men were out working so they could afford to live and those times have also changed.
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #86 on: December 31, 2017, 09:00:07 AM »
I guess the question is how do you decide when to stop going that way?
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #87 on: December 31, 2017, 09:00:19 AM »
Most of the things I've seen were from the 60's and 70's.  No one was sleeveless, they didn't have mixed dancing, their hair was covered.

Just saying.  And yes as a whole our communities have gotten "stricter" about a lot of things.


I guess the question is how do you decide when to stop going that way?
The papers showing women in the 70’s still show them today

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #88 on: December 31, 2017, 09:08:05 AM »
I recently had this sort of  discussion with some Chassidish relatives of mine in Israel.  They were discussing about sending one of the kids to Gan next year (she's 2 at the moment) and which to send her to and they said well if you go with X at least she won't have to wear tights yet.


This led to a whole discussion of how 3 year old chassidish girls are required to wear tights and 15-20 years ago (so we're not talking the 60s here-but like 1999)  where it was still totally accepted to wear little socks and even short sleeves. And this was in the most religious parts of Bnei Brak.

These little things that "we let" change... these things we think that are "not really a big deal" end up really causing problems. And more division and aren't making us any frummer or helping our yiddeshkeit grow IMHO.

Slowly lettings these type of things change that one doesn't necessarily believe need changing is slightly dangerous IMO.

Obviously there are plenty of people reading this who think no girl SHOULD walking around in anything but tights and no women should ever be seen in a magazine because that is 'better', frummer? and those people clearly just disagree outright anyways with any of these type of thoughts.

My opinions aren't for them.

It's for those in the middle.  Like we mentioned above. Who let these things go or be because it's easier not to fight or discuss.
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #89 on: December 31, 2017, 09:13:20 AM »
We can discuss anything & everything (in fact we do), but most, if not all, of these magazines have rabbonim guiding them.

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #90 on: December 31, 2017, 09:14:59 AM »
...of these magazines have rabbonim guiding them.
Am I correct it is all men?
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #91 on: December 31, 2017, 09:16:14 AM »
“We” can discuss anything & everything (in fact we do), but most, if not all, of these magazines have rabbonim guiding them.

Do you know how many times I've heard well respected Rabbonim tell me they think X Y and Z but they can't say things because they can't make trouble? OR what will people think? etc. etc.
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #92 on: December 31, 2017, 09:17:06 AM »
Am I correct it is all men?
The same men who might’ve allowed it back then

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #93 on: December 31, 2017, 09:17:31 AM »
Do you know how many times I've heard well respected Rabbonim tell me they think X Y and Z but they can't say things because they can't make trouble? OR what will people think? etc. etc.
Then it’s time for them to retire

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #94 on: December 31, 2017, 09:18:26 AM »
Then it’s time for them to retire

You'd have a lot of Rabbeim retiring if that happened :)
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #96 on: December 31, 2017, 09:21:05 AM »
You'd have a lot of Rabbeim retiring if that happened :)
Hey, it’s his job to speak up if he feels people are ignoring halachas.

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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #97 on: December 31, 2017, 09:26:49 AM »
Those aren't good excuses. You can't pull all the way to one side to avoid having discussion and differences in the middle.
  And half the issue is people actually believing these standards are 'correct' and anything different is 'wrong'. 

If most people adhereing to these standards were at least honest that they're doing them to avoid debating over specifics we'd already be a lot better off.
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #98 on: December 31, 2017, 09:27:10 AM »
Hey, it’s his job to speak up if he feels people are ignoring halachas.

It's usually the opposite idea. People being too machmir. Things we do that aren't necessary. Things in the community that are becoming must dos, must haves, etc.

   Again, my comments are for those who don't really believe we need to erase women from magazines but just go with the flow.

I'm not one who likes to speak up or "make trouble" as I generally try to live peacefully in my little corner of the world and do my thing but I am starting to believe it is dangerous to let things like this that seemingly appear to be no big deal to "let be". 
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Re: Women in Jewish magazines
« Reply #99 on: December 31, 2017, 09:27:50 AM »
https://www.city.ac.uk/news/2016/july/infants-prefer-toys-typed-to-their-gender,-says-study
WOW that is a groundbreaking study. I guess the type of toys they have at home had nothing to do with it.
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