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Author Topic: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?  (Read 123803 times)

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #181 on: January 01, 2018, 04:29:16 PM »
In general the more to the right you go the less chance that a family owns a pet.

Most people wouldn't have their kids kicked out of school for it but they may get some funny looks.

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #182 on: January 01, 2018, 04:33:40 PM »
הגר"ש ואזנר שליט"א בשו"ת שבט הלוי חלק ד' סימן א' אות ב' שכתב בזה"ל, מן הנסיון למדתי שהוא דבר שראוי לאסרו איסור גמור, כי עצם הלימוד [של־נהיגה] גרם כבר וגורם לפריצות, והוא ההיפך הגמור מכל כבודה בת מלך פנימה, כמו שעצם הנהיגה הוא ממש להיפך כל כבודה וגו'. האשה חושפת עצמה בזה בשווקים ורחובות לעין כל רואה, נכשלת ומכשלת את האחרים. ואין דרכה של־אשה במרכב, עיין פסחים דף ג' ע"א. אעפ"י שהמציאות של־רכיבה על גבי בהמה אינו דומה לגמרי להא דידן, מכל־מקום בעצם אין דרכה בכך דומה בכמה דברים שקשה לפרש בכתב וכו'

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #185 on: January 01, 2018, 04:45:48 PM »
PMed to me:

The reasons we were always told that we can’t drive included, “Tznius, es past nisht, it’s not eidel and it’s not for a Yiddishe Mame.”

There is no real reason in my opinion.

I was just discussing this topic with a real Chassidish friend of mine who would never drive - because of family, schools etc. She told me that if not for those issues she does not see the problem with it. Again, she is very Chassidish.

At this point, it is a tough rule to undo. If people were denied this prospect until now, how can they suddenly allow it? The schools are the ones putting the most pressure on families. If you are moving out of town and looking to get into a new school, your children will not be accepted if you drive.

- An Anonymous Chassidish Women Driver
I think this sums it up pretty well.

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #186 on: January 01, 2018, 04:51:39 PM »
They can drink all they want - they can't drive anyway
ALOL

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #187 on: January 01, 2018, 04:54:05 PM »
This is Rabbi Menashe Reisman, a famous Belzer mashpia.
Think it was at an event in Monsey for Belze yungerliet.

I heard that some community leaders made sure he doesn't get to talk to the RAV about it

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #188 on: January 01, 2018, 04:54:31 PM »
There are plenty of families with small pets like rabbits and the like
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #189 on: January 01, 2018, 04:54:59 PM »
1 - They believe it is OK for women to drive.
2 - They believe it is OK for women's pictures to be in publications.
3 -
4 -
5 -
6 -
7 -
8 -
9 -
10 -

Will add more as we go along.  :)
You only have 2 up to now... someone hasn't been focused enough
Or pets
many ppl have rabbits birds etc. Just no dogs or cats.
What's the reason for not having a pet?
Animal cruelty

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #190 on: January 01, 2018, 04:56:41 PM »
To summarize all the new popcorn threads there's 1 underlying factor.

There is a split in how everyone perceives things.

Side 1- yiddishkeit has changed. The internal flame that our parents and grandparents had simply isn't there. ( No disagreement here. How many of us would live through 6 years of Hell and still stay frum? )

They therefore believe that we need to shield ourselves from the outside world. Less change. More restrictions. Try to do everything so that we don't lose our sensitivities. ( Even if many are failing the system, at least the ones that stay reflect the way a Jew should be to the best of their ability in 2018 )

Side 2 - we are in a different world and things will only get worse, unless we adapt. Many of the old school systems are falling way too many of our kids..

( I need to go...I'm sure someone can continue to explain side 2 )
Does anyone disagree that this is the basis of all the popcorn here?

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #191 on: January 01, 2018, 04:57:28 PM »
You only have 2 up to now... someone hasn't been focused enoughmany ppl have rabbits birds etc. Just no dogs or cats.Animal cruelty

Repost on both :P
There are plenty of families with small pets like rabbits and the like
pets would be inhumane
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #192 on: January 01, 2018, 04:59:06 PM »
Repost on both
So I type 10 seconds slower...

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #193 on: January 01, 2018, 05:00:50 PM »
So I type 10 seconds slower...
That is only for the first one.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #194 on: January 01, 2018, 05:04:27 PM »
That is only for the first one.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #195 on: January 01, 2018, 05:05:46 PM »
No Emoji=No Joke
It all started from the first one.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #196 on: January 01, 2018, 05:14:26 PM »
-DMC
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it ~Ferris Bueller"

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #197 on: January 01, 2018, 05:15:20 PM »



here's the answer to all your questions.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #198 on: January 01, 2018, 05:16:06 PM »
Most yeshivish would frown upon women bike riding or roller blading on the streets. Perhaps in a park or a dedicated area would be better.   

IMO.
My cousin is a 5th grade Rebbe in a boys  Yeshiva and was told he had to stop riding his bike to school.

Ah. I love religion.
In KJ for example bikes are not allowed and everyone kids to adults use taxi's very often. In Willamsburg Satmar doesn't allow bikes. In Monsey bike are allowed and we go round and round in circles

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #199 on: January 01, 2018, 05:30:45 PM »
This is about men but he was known to physically lie down in the street if he saw a women driving in ofakim... I believe he held it was a tznius issue, and possibly lo silbash (!?) If someone has a nefesh chaya I'm sure it's in there.