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Author Topic: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?  (Read 31413 times)

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #30 on: January 01, 2018, 01:55:44 PM »
So what is the reasoning for not letting them drive. Can't say this one is in the Torah.  :)
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #31 on: January 01, 2018, 01:56:16 PM »
No chassidishe kehilla allows. Period.

Monsey used to be different, but over the last few years it's become unacceptable as well.most schools won't accept families that the women drive. ( Which deserves a separate thread on the wonderful day...)
Here in lies my reasoning for any member of the community to be able to stand up to these community  school enforced roles that end up dictating the rules for the whole extended comminuty.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #32 on: January 01, 2018, 01:56:58 PM »
No chassidishe kehilla allows. Period.

Monsey used to be different, but over the last few years it's become unacceptable as well.most schools won't accept families that the women drive. ( Which deserves a separate thread on the wonderful day...)

Yes, I know someone who lives in Monsey whose wife does not drive because of "schooling issues." In other words, the model set by the mother who drives would be damaging to the other children in the school. Or something like that.

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Again, what's the concern??

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #33 on: January 01, 2018, 02:01:18 PM »
I really believe it comes more from not letting the women have that freedom than an issue of Tznius.
Do you have any relatives that are chassidish?

My understanding it's not tznuis it's to concept on what's the role of the Jewish mother.

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #34 on: January 01, 2018, 02:02:55 PM »
Yes, I know someone who lives in Monsey whose wife does not drive because of "schooling issues." In other words, the model set by the mother who drives would be damaging to the other children in the school. Or something like that.

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Again, what's the concern??
Yup.

Many chassidishe communities allowed understanding that it's a different geographic type of living.

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #35 on: January 01, 2018, 02:03:47 PM »
Do you have any relatives that are chassidish?

My understanding it's not tznuis it's to concept on what's the role of the Jewish mother.
Many. They do let women work these days. Many women have jobs out of the house.  Like many things, this idea is somehow 'better' and more from and to change it would somehow be going down a madrega in their eyes.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #36 on: January 01, 2018, 02:05:47 PM »
I really believe it comes more from not letting the women have that freedom.
Curious where you got that from

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #37 on: January 01, 2018, 02:07:14 PM »
Do you have any relatives that are chassidish?

My understanding it's not tznuis it's to concept on what's the role of the Jewish mother.
Where does the concept of a "Jewish mother" being told to sit at home and cook dinner because that's their "role" come from?
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #38 on: January 01, 2018, 02:07:32 PM »
Curious where you got that from
Cementing their roles in the home. Same idea as was suggested above.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #39 on: January 01, 2018, 02:08:25 PM »
Where does the concept of a "Jewish mother" being told to sit at home and cook dinner because that's their "role" come from?
Sara Imenu?
Also that idea isn't a foreign concept to the non Jewish world as well. Once upon a time that's how things were.
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #40 on: January 01, 2018, 02:10:22 PM »
It's too bad we'll never hear in this thread from the people whose wives have been forbidden to drive...

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #41 on: January 01, 2018, 02:10:57 PM »
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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #43 on: January 01, 2018, 02:12:58 PM »
Many people in these communities think it would be very helpful if their wives would drive, but they can't go against thdir society

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Re: Why do some Jewish communities prohibit women from driving?
« Reply #44 on: January 01, 2018, 02:14:12 PM »
Sara Imenu?
Also that idea isn't a foreign concept to the non Jewish world as well. Once upon a time that's how things were.
And what about all the other women in tanach who weren't exactly like that? Are they not role models for today's frum women?
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