So you're 35 and live in the 5 Towns. How do you perceive your community? How many people at the W or 30 under 30 davened weekdays before their kids were in 5th grade? And that sect is arguable 'balabatush' not modern orthodox.
1) I only davened at the W once (that I could recall)
2) I daven with many of my chevra day in day out. I know who's there. The ones that are not there I assume that they daven elsewhere. There are many shuls to daven at, at many different times.
3) personally, I'm very set in my ways. I daven at the same minyanim almost all the time.
4) I guess this is why r avigdor Miller says that it's aultra important to be koveah yourself with tefillos. (10 commandments of marriage).
5) Obviously there are tons of people in the extended community that aren't like me. But from the people that grew up in similar circles and lead similar lifestyle to me, I think that most daven with a minyan 3x a day most of the time.
I'll write more maybe when I'm in front of my PC. Too hard on a phone.