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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #80 on: January 11, 2018, 04:22:37 PM »
Don't shoot the messenger.
Fair enough. But please see the edit to my post - is this something you truly believe?

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #81 on: January 11, 2018, 04:39:33 PM »
Fair enough. But please see the edit to my post - is this something you truly believe?
No.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #82 on: January 11, 2018, 04:40:11 PM »
the labeling generation
the hencheization of the generation

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #83 on: January 11, 2018, 04:43:32 PM »
a relative of mine that got divorced after three children said he wanted to write a book about not getting divorced for the sake of the children. nothing with the community. he has way to many points to start naming them. im just pointing out the opinion of someone that went through divorce
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #84 on: January 11, 2018, 04:44:00 PM »
Bingo
Also the entitlement
the ME generation
The quick fix generation
Yup, a bunch of self centered selfish spoiled children. That's all it is.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #85 on: January 11, 2018, 05:20:57 PM »
porn, infidelity

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #86 on: January 11, 2018, 05:29:17 PM »
if people would just slow down on making new topics in JS we would be able to solve some of these issues. Each time a new topic is started the old issues are pushed to a back burner.(until someone brings up a particularly sharp quote)
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #87 on: January 11, 2018, 05:38:41 PM »
if people would just slow down on making new topics in JS we would be able to solve some of these issues. Each time a new topic is started the old issues are pushed to a back burner.(until someone brings up a particularly sharp quote)

or each topic that goes off course....

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #88 on: January 11, 2018, 05:53:37 PM »
if people would just slow down on making new topics in JS we would be able to solve some of these issues. Each time a new topic is started the old issues are pushed to a back burner.(until someone brings up a particularly sharp quote)
All that we are missing for a perfect world is for JS discussions to be completed.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #89 on: January 11, 2018, 06:11:51 PM »
the labeling generation
The irreverent generation.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #90 on: January 12, 2018, 06:02:25 AM »
Without responding subjectively to any individual situation.
I think that there was once more social pressure to stay married then there currently is, which can potentially snowball this issue as many people who have perfectly happy marriages may have gotten divorced at some point earlier in the marriage when things were more difficult had there been no social pressure to keep going.
That's why it's rising in my opinion.
Not to say that this social pressure is an entirely good thing there are some very unhealthy marriages that aren't good for either  spouse or the kids that people stay in due to social pressures.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #91 on: January 12, 2018, 06:26:20 AM »
Let me ask a crazy question. Is this so bad? What's more important, staying married or being happy? As Louis CK once said "no good marriage has ever ended in divorce."
There's no such thing as a blissful marriage that never hits rough patches or a couple that never disagrees. It's a myth, just like love on first sight is. Not having the ability, maturity, or willpower to work on a relationship is a bad thing, yes.
Who do you think you are fooling? You think you are going to pull a quick one on your Creator? Good luck with that.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #92 on: January 12, 2018, 06:32:31 AM »
I am sure teens are more than capable to make this lifelong decision. Just remember you are not allowed to drink before, during or after the decision.

From the outside, its often hard to discern the subsects within the larger group. I personally am not referring to the hassidic community which dates <5 times and are still teens; Im just not really familiar with the marriage/divorce dynamics there.

Im referring to the part of the community that gets married bet 22-25, and dates 6-12 weeks. They're not teens. I am not saying theyre mature or that they date long enough. Thats basically what im getting at here:
I guess a bigger question would be why our kids are turning out so immature and out of touch with life's real values and challenges.
Who do you think you are fooling? You think you are going to pull a quick one on your Creator? Good luck with that.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #93 on: January 12, 2018, 07:17:12 AM »
I guess a bigger question would be why our kids are turning out so immature and out of touch with life's real values and challenges.
millennials??

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #94 on: January 12, 2018, 07:19:55 AM »
I guess a bigger question would be why our kids are turning out so immature and out of touch with life's real values and challenges.
I don't see that as happening. My kids have a better grasp what is going on in the real world than I did at their age. Probably a direct result of them being exposed to it more.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #95 on: January 12, 2018, 07:22:20 AM »
I don't see that as happening. My kids have a better grasp what is going on in the real world than I did at their age. Probably a direct result of them being exposed to it more.
Better grasp doesnt necessarily mean resiliancy, maturity and an ability to cope with stress.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #96 on: January 12, 2018, 07:25:43 AM »
Better grasp doesnt necessarily mean resiliancy, maturity and an ability to cope with stress.
It puts you in a better position to solve the issue if you understand it.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #97 on: January 12, 2018, 07:32:49 AM »
It puts you in a better position to solve the issue if you understand it.
I don't see any evidence to back that up.  Life's challenges are not science experiments where information is key, yes, having a good comprehension of people and challenges can help but without the emotional maturity and resiliency its pretty worthless if not  harmful.

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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #98 on: January 12, 2018, 07:35:22 AM »
Better grasp doesnt necessarily mean resiliancy, maturity and an ability to cope with stress.
Exercise does help prepare for a marathon.
Who do you think you are fooling? You think you are going to pull a quick one on your Creator? Good luck with that.
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Re: Why is our divorce rate rising drastically?
« Reply #99 on: January 12, 2018, 07:39:54 AM »
I don't see any evidence to back that up. 
You want evidence that understating a problem will put you in a better position to solve it?
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