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When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« on: June 11, 2018, 04:29:19 PM »
so I love to travel but my wife really does not. (dont worry i did not come here for shalom bayis tips :P)
i sometimes think of just going on trips myself or with friends. is this something any of you ever did? or how do you deal with a spouse that really does not like to travel?

P.S. i hope certain comments wont make me regret writing this ;D
« Last Edit: June 11, 2018, 04:36:20 PM by Mordyk »
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2018, 04:55:53 PM »
If your wife is ok with it, go with a friend. It is often easier to travel with another guy where your interests and needs may be better aligned.

Examples: you both go to mincha and no one needs to awkwardly stand around for 15/20 minutes. There is no need to "find a bathroom" you just go. You can sleep in some hostel with a bunch of other people or couch-surf if that is your thing or even sleep in a car and you don't always need a proper hotel room. You can hitchhike. You do't need to wait around some department store for an hour as your wife finds a pair of shoes. You can take more intense hikes if that is your thing or fly somewhere with 4 stopovers instead of direct in order to experience different first class products.

There are many many more reasons as well.
Don't get me wrong. It is fun to travel with my wife but if yours doesn't like to you can still have fun and go places as long as she is ok with it.

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #2 on: June 11, 2018, 04:57:58 PM »
i sometimes think of just going on trips myself or with friends. is this something any of you ever did?
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #3 on: June 11, 2018, 05:10:34 PM »
I travel with real life friends, DDF friends, siblings, and solo to supplement my travel addiction. My wife is perfectly happy not being harassed to go on another trip...
DDF is a great place to meetup with people in your same situation. It's much more common than you think.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #4 on: June 11, 2018, 05:25:18 PM »
so I love to travel but my wife really does not. (dont worry i did not come here for shalom bayis tips :P)
i sometimes think of just going on trips myself or with friends. is this something any of you ever did? or how do you deal with a spouse that really does not like to travel?

P.S. i hope certain comments wont make me regret writing this ;D

Find friends who are chassidish. My understanding is that it is very common for the women to go on trips together, or for the men to travel without their wives. On a more serious note, I would imagine itís better from a spiritual standpoint to find friends to go with than to go solo....

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #5 on: June 11, 2018, 05:26:45 PM »
On a more serious note, I would imagine itís better from a spiritual standpoint to find friends to go with than to go solo....
Generally speaking it's also more fun and more economical.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #6 on: June 11, 2018, 05:32:17 PM »
Thanks everyone for the insight! i just hate driving her crazy to go on the next trip, and i'm always eager to go travel more... my wife always says that while i'm on one trip i plan the next! she just doesnt get it ;D
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #7 on: June 11, 2018, 05:40:32 PM »
Thanks everyone for the insight! i just hate driving her crazy to go on the next trip, and i'm always eager to go travel more... my wife always says that while i'm on one trip i plan the next! she just doesnt get it ;D
Join the club. This was one of the most complaints that guys had at DD seminars. I don't think there's any shame in traveling with friends.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #8 on: June 11, 2018, 05:45:31 PM »
How do you get your wife to not want to travel?
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #9 on: June 11, 2018, 06:08:56 PM »
How do you get your wife to not want to travel?
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #10 on: June 11, 2018, 06:10:05 PM »
How do you get a wife who likes to travel? ::)
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #11 on: June 11, 2018, 06:27:36 PM »
How do you get a wife who likes to travel? ::)
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #13 on: June 11, 2018, 06:53:56 PM »
My wife loves to travel and I don't. I tell her go and she does. I wonder how many here would do the same.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #14 on: June 11, 2018, 07:02:30 PM »
My wife loves to travel and I don't. I tell her go and she does. I wonder how many here would do the same.
Tougher for the mom to leave when she's nursing, etc.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #15 on: June 11, 2018, 07:08:56 PM »
Tougher for the mom to leave when she's nursing, etc.
You kill two birds with one stone. Kids go with her!  :)
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #16 on: June 11, 2018, 07:09:08 PM »
Generally speaking it's also more fun and more economical.

Itís also a good idea to pick up the habit now, so when you retire you donít hang around the house and afflict your wife with retired husband syndrome ( for those that wonít end up back in the beis Medrash)....

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #17 on: June 11, 2018, 07:09:41 PM »


My wife loves to travel and I don't. I tell her go and she does. I wonder how many here would do the same.



Find friends who are chassidish. My understanding is that it is very common for the women to go on trips together, or for the men to travel without their wives.

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #18 on: June 11, 2018, 07:09:59 PM »
You kill two birds with one stone. Kids go with her!  :)
Lol, she would much rather be home then.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #19 on: June 11, 2018, 07:14:48 PM »
My wife loves to travel and I don't. I tell her go and she does. I wonder how many here would do the same.
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