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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #20 on: June 11, 2018, 07:15:20 PM »
+1.
Just a lot more rare.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #21 on: June 11, 2018, 07:26:48 PM »
Just a lot more rare.
I didn't mean no one would.
I just found a new supply of forks!

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #22 on: June 12, 2018, 06:00:27 AM »
Something you shouldve discussed during dating. I told my wife during the first date I wanted to see the world and she agreed.

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #23 on: June 12, 2018, 07:49:47 AM »
Something you shouldve discussed during dating. I told my wife during the first date I wanted to see the world and she agreed.

Way more important things to discuss. This is one of those things that should not be a dealbreaker

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #24 on: June 12, 2018, 07:55:41 AM »
Way more important things to discuss. This is one of those things that should not be a dealbreaker
Depends for who

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #25 on: June 12, 2018, 08:13:18 AM »
My wife loves to travel, but her idea of fun trips aren't always the same as my idea. She was more than happy to let me go on a less than two week trip to Australia, as long as I arranged that she wouldn't be alone. I'm making it up to her with a surprise trip to LA, which is much more her speed.

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #26 on: June 12, 2018, 08:27:08 AM »
so I love to travel but my wife really does not. (dont worry i did not come here for shalom bayis tips :P)
i sometimes think of just going on trips myself or with friends. is this something any of you ever did? or how do you deal with a spouse that really does not like to travel?

P.S. i hope certain comments wont make me regret writing this ;D
Have you taken her in first international and stayed at a 5 star hotel?

There are levels of traveling, and if she has bad memories from being a kid, she might change her mind if she has a different experience.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #27 on: June 12, 2018, 08:30:04 AM »
Have you taken her in first international and stayed at a 5 star hotel?

There are levels of traveling, and if she has bad memories from being a kid, she might change her mind if she has a different experience.
Only 5 star hotels and business class. You remember im a DDF'ER?? ;D
 She mainly doesnt like leaving the kids

Something you shouldve discussed during dating. I told my wife during the first date I wanted to see the world and she agreed.
Really? I guess we have our differences of whats important in life
« Last Edit: June 12, 2018, 08:33:19 AM by Mordyk »
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #28 on: June 12, 2018, 08:32:56 AM »
Only 5 star hotels and business class. You remember im a DDF'ER?? ;D
We don't judge here :)
She mainly doesnt like leaving the kids
This is probably very common. There are plenty of trips you can do with kids, but of course many trips are much better without.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #29 on: June 12, 2018, 08:34:06 AM »
We don't judge here :)This is probably very common. There are plenty of trips you can do with kids, but of course many trips are much better without.
I have gone many times with kids. Some ended up being more successful than others. But many trips simply cant be done. Not fair to shlep the kids and wake them whenever just to satisfy my travel needs. My kids are still young
« Last Edit: June 12, 2018, 08:37:14 AM by Mordyk »
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #30 on: June 12, 2018, 08:38:41 AM »
I have gone many times with kids. Some ended up being more successful than others. But many trips simply cant be done. Not fair to shlep the kids and wake them whenever just to satisfy my travel needs. My kids are still young

Sounds a lot like my situation. I think the key is striking a balance. The occasional trip with the guys is ok, as long as you make sure she doesn't feel left out, and you do some trips that maybe aren't your ideal use of points but make her happy as well.

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #31 on: June 12, 2018, 09:22:54 AM »
Something you shouldve discussed during dating. I told my wife during the first date I wanted to see the world and she agreed.
What percentage of your travel is with your wife vs without?
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #32 on: June 12, 2018, 09:26:22 AM »
who here would never be able to go on a 10 day vacation without their SO?

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #33 on: June 12, 2018, 09:28:15 AM »
who here would never be able to go on a 10 day vacation without their SO?
1 shabbos away is my self imposed limit.
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #34 on: June 12, 2018, 09:35:08 AM »
1 shabbos away is my self imposed limit.

10 days can be one shabbos

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #35 on: June 12, 2018, 09:48:15 AM »
Add a poll
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #36 on: June 12, 2018, 10:41:15 AM »
1 shabbos away is my self imposed limit.

Is this per trip or per year?

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #37 on: June 12, 2018, 10:51:59 AM »
Is this per trip or per year?
Both.

Off the top of my head, I've been away from my family for 1 Shabbos in
Singapore with @jj1000 in 2013
Japan with @AJK in 2015
Lofoten with @Something Fishy @whYME @moish @chaim’l in 2016
Maldives with a brother in 2017
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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #38 on: June 12, 2018, 10:57:47 AM »
We don't leave our kids behind for a vacation over Shabbos. Let alone I don't enjoy spending Shabbos at strange places.
This definitely limits my ability to see Austraila, Africa...

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Re: When you like to travel but your SO does not...
« Reply #39 on: June 12, 2018, 11:05:01 AM »
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