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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #150 on: November 05, 2013, 01:18:47 PM »
Gonna need a poll for that one, how many needed the couch/extra bed on their first night :P

I doubt anyone's gonna answer that one (not truthfully, anyway), but two data points:

1) I remember my chassan teacher telling me that in his experience, a whopping 98% of chassanim don't end up needing it. :o
2) Based on reports and anecdotes I've been hearing, more and more young couples actually avoid "needing it" on purpose (v'hamayvin yavin). :o :o :o

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #151 on: November 05, 2013, 01:23:14 PM »
I heard from multiple people who teach Chassanim that using the rollaway bed is not a good idea as your lowering yourself. I'm not saying I understand that as I don't but this is what I've heard.
I've heard that people say that and I dont understand it either

Next time you guys come to a DO, I'll be happy to explain it to you. I'm not a psychologist (not yet, anyway...), but I've seen and heard enough in my time that I have the theory behind that statement pretty much worked out.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #152 on: November 05, 2013, 01:24:04 PM »
Okay leaving the halachic and awkward issues aside... where should I go? lol

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #153 on: November 05, 2013, 01:30:20 PM »
I should really restore those posts for a day  ;)

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #154 on: November 05, 2013, 01:41:19 PM »
I know they might want you to rush things.

I just say: Enjoy the 7 brochos.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #155 on: November 05, 2013, 01:41:35 PM »
I doubt anyone's gonna answer that one (not truthfully, anyway), but two data points:

1) I remember my chassan teacher telling me that in his experience, a whopping 98% of chassanim don't end up needing it. :o

That number sounds a bit large but it's def a big majority...
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #156 on: November 05, 2013, 01:57:08 PM »
I know they might want you to rush things.

I just say: Enjoy the 7 brochos.

Like I said...


2) Based on reports and anecdotes I've been hearing, more and more young couples actually avoid "needing it" on purpose (v'hamayvin yavin). :o :o :o

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #157 on: November 05, 2013, 01:58:29 PM »
That number sounds a bit large but it's def a big majority...

It sure does. But I asked him if it was an exaggeration, and he assured me it was quite accurate. His exact words were "maybe 2 out of every 100 chassanim".

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #158 on: November 05, 2013, 02:20:22 PM »
It sure does. But I asked him if it was an exaggeration, and he assured me it was quite accurate. His exact words were "maybe 2 out of every 100 chassanim".
they say that for a reason...
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #159 on: November 05, 2013, 02:34:18 PM »
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #160 on: November 05, 2013, 03:30:42 PM »
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #161 on: November 05, 2013, 05:50:39 PM »
Okay leaving the halachic and awkward issues aside... where should I go? lol
http://www.innonmainmanasquan.com
Is what I recommend.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #162 on: November 05, 2013, 05:55:45 PM »
I doubt anyone's gonna answer that one (not truthfully, anyway), but two data points:

1) I remember my chassan teacher telling me that in his experience, a whopping 98% of chassanim don't end up needing it. :o
2) Based on reports and anecdotes I've been hearing, more and more young couples actually avoid "needing it" on purpose (v'hamayvin yavin). :o :o :o

(Mods, feel free to delete this if you think it's any more inappropriate than Dan's post. :P)
I'm still a bochur so I don't know all that much about this but sometimes I book chassanim for two nights the night of their wedding and the next so they it seems would definitely want two beds it seems.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #163 on: November 05, 2013, 06:23:05 PM »
IMHO the best thing for WN is a Hilton homewood suites, you get a nice little apartment with a kitchen etc.
Leave the fancy rooms for later.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #164 on: November 05, 2013, 06:29:50 PM »
IMHO the best thing for WN is a Hilton homewood suites, you get a nice little apartment with a kitchen etc.
Leave the fancy rooms for later.
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My not-so-humble opinion agrees, you'll enjoy the fancy rooms much more on the honeymoon...
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