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To save you time, here's a sum up of this thread. If you're getting married close to NYC (yes, Brooklyn is in NYC) - just go to the Andaz 5th. :)

REMEMBER: You must take your kesubah with you, or give it to someone to hold for you. The kallah has to know where it is.

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Lakewood
The American Hotel in Freehold TR by @Yehuda here and here
http://innonmainmanasquan.com/wp/ DrDanny recommended Special secret
http://www.berkeleyhotelnj.com/
https://www.bungalowhotel.net/
Hyatt New Brunswick 55min away

NYC Area
SPG
W Hoboken TR by SamKey
Westin Jersey City
The Westin New York at Times Square
Element New York Times Square West
Le Parker Méridien New York
W New York
St. Regis New York TR by Whacked1

Hyatt
Andaz 5th Ave TR by AJK
Andaz Wall St

Ritz Central Park TR by wonderlust

North Jersey
Hilton Pearl River
Marriott Glen Point
Sheraton Crossroads (mahwah) 
Sheraton Meadowlands
Hilton Woodcliff Lake

Baltimore
Hyatt by the Harbor
DoubleTree/Hilton at Reisterstown Rd
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #380 on: March 21, 2014, 08:59:41 AM »
That is precisely why virtually all professional recommend a hotel instead of the comfort of home where things may get delayed..
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #381 on: March 21, 2014, 08:59:50 AM »
This is not the right place for this discussion.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #382 on: March 21, 2014, 09:12:10 AM »
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #383 on: March 21, 2014, 09:18:03 AM »

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #384 on: March 21, 2014, 09:31:17 AM »
"Not all who wander are lost"

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #385 on: March 21, 2014, 09:43:32 AM »
Lots of specific reasons. I bet a lot of which I can't even think of.

For starters, a hotel is nice when you want to get away. When moving into a brand new apartment with your new spouse, you should not need to get away; you are already going somewhere new and exciting.

As exciting as it may have been made to seem (for whatever reason), a hotel stay is inherently a pain in the neck. Unless you are staying for several days, you have to worry about check out times and parking and driving a car out before the wedding. It becomes a nuisance when all you want to do is relax after the big day.

When you go to your new home, you probably have it set up before hand. You've got clothes there, a fridge full of food, and all your tchachkes that you need like your own bathroom amenities. When you go to a hotel, you'll be living out of a suitcase and chances are there are going to be things that you didn't think of bringing.

Additionally, there can be annoyances with regards to halacha because all hotels have white sheets which is something you want to avoid especially the first night. And the last thing you want to be busy with is fitting your own sheets onto a king size hotel bed.. Which brings me to the next issue:

Bridal suites, and the big rooms in general have one king or queen bed which...is an issue for a chassan and kallah.

Another issue is that though hotels can be exciting to go to, basically they are always going to have a big yuck factor if you give it any thought. All hotels have blankets that don't get washed and I've seen warnings not to sit on the couches as guests feel free to sit there without clothes on and they don't get washed.

So yeah. Hotels on wedding night: bad idea.

Go home to your brand new beds and brand new sheets, and sleep in knowing that you don't have to check out at 12:00PM
here we go again........

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #386 on: March 21, 2014, 10:37:44 AM »
@Yehuda s
Just curious,  did you only post your original question just so you can rant about this topic?  ::)
LOL. Was thinking the same... ;D

What? No! Do you think I need an excuse to rant?  :P   ::)
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #387 on: March 21, 2014, 12:34:31 PM »
I definitely hear the points. The part that I never got was when a  groom & bride walk in & they say they want 2 beds or worse they get bridal suite & request a cot what on earth do the hotel staff think?! It is the most bazaar & strange request I think they ever heard of- & Charlie sheen stays in hotels!! The frum mentality is never to give a 2nd thought what the Gentiles around u r thinking but that is just crazy. Case in point ; Couz worked in ritz in & he told me once staff called him & asked: we have a bride & groom & I thought they asked for a cot but I must have heard wrong caus why would they want that.. " said was awkwardest of moments ..
Why would we care what the goyim think? If there's a chillul Hashem, that's one thing. But I can't see how this would be a chillul Hashem.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #388 on: March 21, 2014, 12:35:29 PM »
bazaar?
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #391 on: March 21, 2014, 04:05:38 PM »
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #393 on: March 22, 2014, 09:41:40 PM »

Lots of specific reasons. I bet a lot of which I can't even think of.

For starters, a hotel is nice when you want to get away. When moving into a brand new apartment with your new spouse, you should not need to get away; you are already going somewhere new and exciting.

As exciting as it may have been made to seem (for whatever reason), a hotel stay is inherently a pain in the neck. Unless you are staying for several days, you have to worry about check out times and parking and driving a car out before the wedding. It becomes a nuisance when all you want to do is relax after the big day.

When you go to your new home, you probably have it set up before hand. You've got clothes there, a fridge full of food, and all your tchachkes that you need like your own bathroom amenities. When you go to a hotel, you'll be living out of a suitcase and chances are there are going to be things that you didn't think of bringing.

Additionally, there can be annoyances with regards to halacha because all hotels have white sheets which is something you want to avoid especially the first night. And the last thing you want to be busy with is fitting your own sheets onto a king size hotel bed.. Which brings me to the next issue:

Bridal suites, and the big rooms in general have one king or queen bed which...is an issue for a chassan and kallah.

Another issue is that though hotels can be exciting to go to, basically they are always going to have a big yuck factor if you give it any thought. All hotels have blankets that don't get washed and I've seen warnings not to sit on the couches as guests feel free to sit there without clothes on and they don't get washed.

So yeah. Hotels on wedding night: bad idea.

Go home to your brand new beds and brand new sheets, and sleep in knowing that you don't have to check out at 12:00PM
I hear your points but I think the main reason why is since it's a special and different type of night it's more comfortable to take care of it out of regular circumstances. Sorry if I didn't/couldn't explain myself well enough.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #394 on: March 26, 2014, 01:45:46 AM »
Valid point if where you are getting married is the place you will be living, however, if you are just in a temporary chosson kallah apartment until you move....then hotel would make the most sense.
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #395 on: March 29, 2014, 11:06:10 PM »
Hi, I'm looking for a hotel near Monsey for a friend, needs to be a suite. Tia
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #396 on: March 30, 2014, 12:22:15 AM »
Hi, I'm looking for a hotel near Monsey for a friend, needs to be a suite. Tia
Hilton Pearl River?

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #397 on: March 30, 2014, 12:23:45 AM »
Hi, I'm looking for a hotel near Monsey for a friend, needs to be a suite. Tia
Sheraton Medowlands? Don't know what you call near.

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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #398 on: March 30, 2014, 12:26:00 AM »
Sheraton Medowlands? Don't know what you call near.
now a Hilton
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Re: Hotel for Wedding Night?
« Reply #399 on: March 31, 2014, 10:24:58 PM »
What are the benefits of booking in the hilton with a Dimond account?
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