Author Topic: How much do you spend on an engagement/wedding ring? (Read 15792 times)

justaregularguy · « **Reply #40 on:** October 14, 2018, 11:23:55 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 14, 2018, 10:03:38 PM

Thanks for all the well wishes!
Does this ever happen in Jewish families. Four kids and the youngest is first to get engaged (girl)?

mazel tov! the rest soon bezras Hashem!

MarkS · « **Reply #41 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:00:52 AM »

MarkS · « **Reply #42 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:02:59 AM »

That time in The Office when Michael thought it was 3 years salary

Emkay · « **Reply #43 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:27:03 AM »

Quote from: Yammer on October 14, 2018, 10:32:59 PM

When it happens it's considered unfortunate.

Maybe for you. Don't speak for me.

zh cohen · « **Reply #44 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:42:01 AM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 14, 2018, 10:03:38 PM

Thanks for all the well wishes!
Does this ever happen in Jewish families. Four kids and the youngest is first to get engaged (girl)?

With caveat that there are a lot of differences between communities;
Being that most people within a specific community get married in a specific age range (for example girls between 19-21 and boys 22-24) it is uncommon for a younger sibling to get married before an older sibling of tye same gender. However, girls will often get married before an older brother.

The reason @Yammer called it "unfortunate" is because when it does happen, it is often because the older sibling has been trying to find a match unsuccessfully for an extended period of time.

Yehuda57 · « **Reply #45 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:45:45 AM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 14, 2018, 10:03:38 PM

Thanks for all the well wishes!
Does this ever happen in Jewish families. Four kids and the youngest is first to get engaged (girl)?

If we're asking questions, did you get asked for permission before the proposal?

coralsnake · « **Reply #46 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:49:48 AM »

Congrats CM

Yammer · « **Reply #47 on:** October 15, 2018, 12:55:42 AM »

Quote from: Emkay on October 15, 2018, 12:27:03 AM

Maybe for you. Don't speak for me.

You you disagree with this?

Quote from: zh cohen on October 15, 2018, 12:42:01 AM

With caveat that there are a lot of differences between communities;
Being that most people within a specific community get married in a specific age range (for example girls between 19-21 and boys 22-24) it is uncommon for a younger sibling to get married before an older sibling of tye same gender. However, girls will often get married before an older brother.

The reason @Yammer called it "unfortunate" is because when it does happen, it is often because the older sibling has been trying to find a match unsuccessfully for an extended period of time.

Correct

Live N Learn · « **Reply #48 on:** October 15, 2018, 01:21:58 AM »

Mazel Tov to @ChaimMoskowitz, and Congrats to the mechutunim.

ChaimMoskowitz · « **Reply #49 on:** October 15, 2018, 06:17:47 AM »

Quote from: Yehuda57 on October 15, 2018, 12:45:45 AM

If we're asking questions, did you get asked for permission before the proposal?

Both of us did. Not something that is the norm anymore AFAIK.

ChaimMoskowitz · « **Reply #50 on:** October 15, 2018, 06:31:33 AM »

Quote from: zh cohen on October 15, 2018, 12:42:01 AM

With caveat that there are a lot of differences between communities;
Being that most people within a specific community get married in a specific age range (for example girls between 19-21 and boys 22-24) it is uncommon for a younger sibling to get married before an older sibling of tye same gender. However, girls will often get married before an older brother.

Pretty much was my understanding.

ChaimMoskowitz · « **Reply #51 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:18:40 PM »

Who pays for the engagement party?
ETA: Never mind I just got the bad news.

jj1000 · « **Reply #52 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:39:54 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 15, 2018, 09:18:40 PM

Who pays for the engagement party?
ETA: Never mind I just got the bad news.

LOL!

Gotta start a thread for all those costs. Has she chosen her shaitel/candlesticks/engagement jewelry yet?

ExGingi · « **Reply #53 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:40:59 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 15, 2018, 09:18:40 PM

Who pays for the engagement party?
ETA: Never mind I just got the bad news.

Who said you can't do things differently? We split everything evenly between both sides (give or take).

ChaimMoskowitz · « **Reply #54 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:45:05 PM »

Quote from: jj1000 on October 15, 2018, 09:39:54 PM

Gotta start a thread for all those costs. Has she chosen her shaitel/candlesticks/engagement jewelry yet?

I already have an ulcer.

Quote from: ExGingi on October 15, 2018, 09:40:59 PM

Who said you can't do things differently? We split everything evenly between both sides (give or take).

Exactly and DW and I paid for our own.

ExGingi · « **Reply #55 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:46:29 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 15, 2018, 09:45:05 PM

Exactly and DW and I paid for our own.

Good for you!

ChaimMoskowitz · « **Reply #56 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:49:33 PM »

Quote from: ExGingi on October 15, 2018, 09:46:29 PM

Good for you!

The problem is I am out of touch with today prices. We just had our 34th anniversary and I am sure prices went up since then.

ExGingi · « **Reply #57 on:** October 15, 2018, 09:53:26 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 15, 2018, 09:49:33 PM

The problem is I am out of touch with today prices. We just had our 34th anniversary and I am sure prices went up since then.

Yup. That comes with the territory.

Prices are way up since I got married ($400/mo for a one bedroom). And even in the 5+ years since my daughter got married (though I think Gold and Silver are down from then).

miles lover · « **Reply #58 on:** October 15, 2018, 10:08:44 PM »

Quote from: ChaimMoskowitz on October 15, 2018, 09:18:40 PM

Who pays for the engagement party?
ETA: Never mind I just got the bad news.

If she asked you permission then you gotta pay

I think that’s a fair exchange. I’m serious...

Yammer · « **Reply #59 on:** October 16, 2018, 12:51:25 AM »

Quote from: ExGingi on October 15, 2018, 09:40:59 PM

Who said you can't do things differently? We split everything evenly between both sides (give or take).

I think that's the standard in the chassidishe world

Quote from: miles lover on October 15, 2018, 10:08:44 PM

If she asked you permission then you gotta pay I think that’s a fair exchange. I’m serious...

Lol