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How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« on: October 30, 2018, 11:22:57 AM »
My fathers dr. that's jewish and married to a goiyta is coming to visit him now.  This dr is a chief CCU specialist and chief at Columbia.  (Big bigshot) he never put on tefillan yet and we want to offer him to put on tefillan.  Whats the guidance to get him to do it in a respectful way? (I'm not a Shaliach  :-\)
« Last Edit: October 30, 2018, 11:36:19 AM by helpyouamdme »

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2018, 11:37:28 AM »
Would you like to put on tefilin today?
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2018, 11:38:54 AM »
Definitely a very commendable idea!
It's difficult to advise in writing how to go about it but just ask him in a respectful and dignified way if he'll be willing to do a Mitzvah (in your father's honor).
Don't worry about it too much. You'll be fine with it.

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2018, 11:45:25 AM »
the appeal is to the Jew not his bigshot exterior. In that sense we are all equal...

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2018, 11:57:43 AM »
the appeal is to the Jew not his bigshot exterior. In that sense we are all equal...
But it definitely makes it harder to appeal

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2018, 12:05:10 PM »
While I don't usually get flustered or intimidated by bigshots, it was an interesting moment when Levi Leviev moved to our neighborhood (when he still had some money) and the first Shabbos he came to shul, when it came time for Borchu, seeing him in the front and the poor guy in the back, bowing to the same G-D.
While this Dr may not respond to Borchu, he obviously realizes that he has the same 10 fingers and 2 eyes as we all do and was created equal to us by the same G-D only that G-D gave him a different mission then he gave me.

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2018, 12:24:13 PM »
My fathers dr. that's jewish and married to a goiyta is coming to visit him now.  This dr is a chief CCU specialist and chief at Columbia.  (Big bigshot) he never put on tefillan yet and we want to offer him to put on tefillan.  Whats the guidance to get him to do it in a respectful way? (I'm not a Shaliach  :-\)
If I may correct you, you are a Shliach. For today, this is (one of) your shlichus('n) from G-d. And that makes you the "biggest bigshot" of them all. If we could internalize that, we will have all the confidence we need to fulfill our shlichus.
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2018, 12:32:10 PM »
Update he is putting on tefillin now,

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #8 on: October 30, 2018, 12:34:49 PM »
Update he is putting on tefillin now,
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #9 on: October 30, 2018, 12:35:58 PM »
Update he is putting on tefillin now,

This is the salve this forum needed after yesterday. Thank you, and here's to the next Jew you help put on Tefillin.
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #10 on: October 30, 2018, 12:38:07 PM »
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #11 on: October 30, 2018, 12:40:46 PM »
Update he is putting on tefillin now,
Well done!
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #12 on: October 30, 2018, 12:53:54 PM »
What did you say or do?
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #13 on: October 30, 2018, 01:15:51 PM »
Might be since this article it’s more convincing for big-shots
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-10-ritual-orthodox-jewish-men-heart.html

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #14 on: October 30, 2018, 01:17:14 PM »
thank you!!
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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #15 on: October 30, 2018, 01:19:14 PM »
Can I just say, as a Modern Orthodox Jew I personally get frustrated by being asked to put tefillin on- often while I'm wearing a Kippah?

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #16 on: October 30, 2018, 01:21:20 PM »
Update he is putting on tefillin now,
Wow! Within 12 minutes of asking the question you got it done. Should have asked how to bring moshiach

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #17 on: October 30, 2018, 01:38:24 PM »
Wow! Within 12 minutes of asking the question you got it done. Should have asked how to bring moshiach

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #18 on: October 30, 2018, 01:48:03 PM »


Wow! Within 1:12 minutes of asking the question you got it done. Should have asked how to bring moshiach

FTFY
But still impressive!

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Re: How to ask a non-observant Jew to put on tefillin?
« Reply #19 on: October 30, 2018, 01:49:32 PM »
Can I just say, as a Modern Orthodox Jew I personally get frustrated by being asked to put tefillin on- often while I'm wearing a Kippah?

There just trying to do you a favor they dont gain anything now from it just some people who laugh at them. They just want you to have some afterlife.