Yes.
As great as it is to live in EY BH, there are ppl who want to be able to see their family which they haven't seen, possibly in many months.
Sorry for getting triggered by this but:
I've been pretty open on these forums about my parents financial abilities, (and my current status too).
Every time I left the US to go to EY, (both as a bachur and after I got married), and every time my parents leave from a visit here - I/We are very aware that this may be the last time we see each other for a very long time - or ever. I saw my parents a year ago, when my sister got married and I know may not see them ever again. This is the reality of living thousands of miles away from each other, and an awareness that people dont live forever and honestly theres no garuntee that your parents will pass in a way that gives you time to come from the other side of the world to say goodbye. There's also awarness of me living in a relatively dangerous place that they may not see me before I go, and/or lines of travel could be interupted for extended periods of time.
We know this, and accept it as a fact of life and a worthwhile "sacrifice" for get my family getting the zchus to live in EY, - something that generations of yidden longed for.
(I know I could stop here, and this post will prob get a bunch of likes, and be discussed for about two more posts at best and shalom al yisroel - but something has been bothering me for quite a while, and I think I'd like to at least start writing about it here. The following is not meant to be trolling, patronising, or critical of any particular person or community. I write it as an opportunity for me/us to reflect on what is, and what is meant to be. I actualy spent much of sukkos developing this my mind - how to write it, how exactly to phrase things so its not seen as attacking anything in particular or patronising or the like, but we all know what happened, and it didnt really seem to be appropriate to post this then... and I dont think that I will be able to replicate the quality writing that I had prepared then. I hope that this will be seen as inspiration and opportunity for discussion and not as an attack on anyone.)
Have We Lost Our Appreciation for living in/visiting EY?Shortly after I first came to EY, I was shocked by an older avreichs revelation that he had not been to the kosel in over 30 days and frequently had more time than that pass between "visits" . I thought "How could this be? How could it be that a person has the zchus to live in Yerusholayim, a very short bus ride from the kosel and not daven there where the remnants of the schina are at least once a month if not much more often than that? How could he not be drawn like a magnet to the sridei bais elokeinu??
Fast forward 12 years and - I am that avreich. I've lost the Frishkeit and excitment over the zchus I have. I dont daven at the Kosel often enough, nor Kever Rochel, nor Mearas Hamachpeila. Not the kivrei tzadikim in the Galil either. With all the good hechsherim and supply chains, theres not much left of mitzvos tluyos baaretz (Even in a shmita year!! - unless you ibur maaser, or have a chatzer to grow stuff in - of which I have neither). The examples are endless, I realize I've lost much of my appreciation for much of my zchus in EY and need to work on regaining it.
I look at the society around me and ask: Has the frum world also lost its appreciation for EY? Is the holy city of Yerusholayim nothing more than a honeymoon spot where we go running for mommy at the first dificulty, a place where bachurim can do an extended unsupervised roadtrip, a base for trips to Europe? A place where we bring in all sorts of american bedieveds and corrupt the pure people around us? A city to chase the latest fashions, bring the latest tech, eat the trendiest foods ? Do we not aspire to live here for the kedusha and tehara? Are these things befiting of the palhedrin shel melech?
When we visit - Do we realize the zchus we have or has EY just turned into a stop on the yearly social calendar - "Yeshiva Week" in Florida, 21 Adar in Lizensk, Pesach at some exotic hotel, and sukkos in JLM? Is the highlite of the trip the kosel or the chocolate factory in Ranana? Kever Rochel or the blind Museum in cholon? The ruchnius of tzfas or the art galeries? The pashtus of Toldos Aharon or the duplex you're staying in in Schneller? Taking trumos and Maaseros or the quality of the pizza? The talmidei chachamim on rechov press or the street scene in geula? The grandour of Belz/Viznitz or your hotel room in the WA? What do your children remember from their trip?
I've lost some of my appreciation for EY - What about YOU?