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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #20 on: March 17, 2020, 09:53:55 AM »
I fully understand the first date to married and we had many discussions on it. The planned/booked/cost is no different than a non-Jewish wedding. I guess what I am asking is there a religious aspect to it as not to postpone the wedding.
As a non-posek (decisor of Jewish law), I would guess that if a couple asked a Rabbi whether they should postpone the wedding indefinitely until they can have the full shebang, or get married now in front of 10 people, they would say do the latter.

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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #21 on: March 17, 2020, 09:58:23 AM »
As a non-posek (decisor of Jewish law), I would guess that if a couple asked a Rabbi whether they should postpone the wedding indefinitely until they can have the full shebang, or get married now in front of 10 people, they would say do the latter.
Agree but would that be based on Jewish law or just his thoughts?
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #22 on: March 17, 2020, 10:01:58 AM »
Agree but would that be based on Jewish law or just his thoughts?
Jewish law, plus the practical ramifications of keeping them apart for longer. When we say Jewish law, we don't mean there's literally a commandment that says don't push off a wedding obviously. It is essentially related to the commandment to procreate, IINM.

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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #23 on: March 17, 2020, 10:12:38 AM »
A Jewish wedding isn't a beautiful celebration of a couple's love, it's the celebration of the start of a brand new family and the building of a new home.

If the wedding is the former, you postpone it until you can properly celebrate, as the celebration itself is the point. If it's the latter, you make the wedding as soon as possible and figure out the celebration a different time.

A relative who got engaged last week is doing an immidiate-family-only wedding next week in a backyard.

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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #24 on: March 17, 2020, 10:25:26 AM »
A Jewish wedding isn't a beautiful celebration of a couple's love, it's the celebration of the start of a brand new family and the building of a new home.

If the wedding is the former, you postpone it until you can properly celebrate, as the celebration itself is the point. If it's the latter, you make the wedding as soon as possible and figure out the celebration a different time.

A relative who got engaged last week is doing an immidiate-family-only wedding next week in a backyard.
Probably not a Jewish option.
You get married at a local government office. Then you have a religious wedding with the full blown celebration.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #25 on: March 17, 2020, 10:56:25 AM »
Probably not a Jewish option.

You got that one right.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #26 on: March 17, 2020, 10:57:37 AM »
You got that one right.
I should have said "Not a chance a Jewish option".
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #27 on: March 17, 2020, 11:01:59 AM »
I should have said "Not a chance a Jewish option".
First thing is that the Govt office is totoally worthless. A possible option is to have a private ceremony and then a celebration later. That is actually well sourced in the talmud.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #28 on: March 17, 2020, 11:04:39 AM »
First thing is that the Govt office is totoally worthless. A possible option is to have a private ceremony and then a celebration later. That is actually well sourced in the talmud.
That would be for us getting married in church then renewing your vows later with the normal celebration you would have had.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #29 on: March 17, 2020, 11:20:42 AM »
You get married at a local government office.
Is this even still an option at this stage ?

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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #30 on: March 17, 2020, 11:22:45 AM »
Is this even still an option at this stage ?
Probably not.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #31 on: March 17, 2020, 11:47:21 AM »
The main part of a wedding is the marriage.  A basic crowd with the required ceremony lets the couple start their life together. If they want a large celebration later, go for it. There probably will be some that do. 

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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #32 on: March 17, 2020, 12:48:49 PM »
The main part of a wedding is the marriage.  A basic crowd with the required ceremony lets the couple start their life together. If they want a large celebration later, go for it. There probably will be some that do.
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Re: Gatherings of 50 people banned
« Reply #33 on: March 17, 2020, 01:13:10 PM »
<blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">This photo was just sent to me by a Hasidic friend in Brooklyn with a 104 fever. He’s enraged. This was a wedding on Sunday of a key Satmar figure. Many yeshivas remain open today. “This is a Hillul Hashem,” he says. And it’s a betrayal of the primary Jewish value:<br>choose life! <a href="https://t.co/bxjQ5JwzJS">pic.twitter.com/bxjQ5JwzJS</a></p>&mdash; Bari Weiss (@bariweiss) <a href="https://twitter.com/bariweiss/status/1239943495969837058?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 17, 2020</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script>
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