Poll

What Do Your Kids Call You?

Abba
14 (16.9%)
Dad/Daddy
22 (26.5%)
Ta/Tatty
45 (54.2%)
Pa/Papa
2 (2.4%)

Total Members Voted: 82

Author Topic: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?  (Read 8759 times)

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #40 on: November 22, 2013, 12:31:15 AM »
I don't understand why people call their spouse mommy when they're talking to her. I would understand if you tell your kid give this to mommy and not say your wifes name but to speak to each other referring to each other as daddy and mommy I never understood. If someone doesn't mind explaining it to me I'd really appreciate it.
Do you have kids?  How old is the oldest?

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #41 on: November 22, 2013, 12:32:05 AM »
Do you have kids?  How old is the oldest?
2 and 2 and I gotta agree with him.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #42 on: November 22, 2013, 12:37:03 AM »
2 and 2 and I gotta agree with him.
1) If it is good enough for the R"Y, it is good enough for me. (not necessarily a reason, but at least a s'neef)
2) It just makes it easier with the kids.  Sure you can get them to stop, but this way the problem is avoided completely.
3) If someone is already using "endearing name", e.g. honey, dear, etc...IMO, this is no different.
4) I may be way off here, but I think I remember seeing something in a sefer regarding tznius.  (Please don't ask for a mara makom, because I have no clue...for all I know, I just made it up.)

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #43 on: November 22, 2013, 12:37:52 AM »
I don't understand why people call their spouse mommy when they're talking to her. I would understand if you tell your kid give this to mommy and not say your wifes name but to speak to each other referring to each other as daddy and mommy I never understood. If someone doesn't mind explaining it to me I'd really appreciate it.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #44 on: November 22, 2013, 12:38:10 AM »
2 and 2 and I gotta agree with him.
And anyways, we didn't start until right about when we were in your stage.  Let's talk in a year.  ;)

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #45 on: November 22, 2013, 12:39:01 AM »
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You call your rebetzin by her first name, or an endearing nickname?

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #46 on: November 22, 2013, 12:41:39 AM »
Do you have kids?  How old is the oldest?
Not yet. This question bothered me my whole life I never understood it and I don't think I will ever do it with my wife. There's a lot of things we have to teach our kids in life and I think its better to explain it to them then to avoid the issue.


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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #47 on: November 22, 2013, 12:42:59 AM »
You call your rebetzin by her first name, or an endearing nickname?
Always by her first name in front of the kids.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #48 on: November 22, 2013, 12:45:11 AM »
There's a lot of things we have to teach our kids in life and I think its better to explain it to them then to avoid the issue.
What issue? The kids will call mommy by her first name? Never had a problem with that.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #49 on: November 22, 2013, 12:45:26 AM »
And anyways, we didn't start until right about when we were in your stage.  Let's talk in a year.  ;)
Rafis already passed the mimicking stage (lasted a few days) and passed alef beis, ABCs and 1-20 while we're at it :)
We're not gonna call each other mommy and tatty, that's just seems odd to me.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #50 on: November 22, 2013, 12:46:04 AM »
Rafis already passed the mimicking stage and passed alef beis, ABCs and 1-20 while we're at it :)
We're not gonna call each other mommy and tatty, that's just seems odd to me.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #51 on: November 22, 2013, 12:47:51 AM »
Rafis already passed the mimicking stage (lasted a few days) and passed alef beis, ABCs and 1-20 while we're at it :)
We're not gonna call each other mommy and tatty, that's just seems odd to me.
B"H, Mazal Tov, zol zein a tzadik un a talmud chacham.
But just because you passed with one...

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #52 on: November 22, 2013, 12:49:30 AM »
B"H, Mazal Tov, zol zein a tzadik un a talmud chacham.
But just because you passed with one...
Amen. (It it weird that I type Amex every time I try typing Amen?)
I hear ya, guess we'll see.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #53 on: November 22, 2013, 12:53:52 AM »
Amen. (It it weird that I type Amex every time I try typing Amen?)
I hear ya, guess we'll see.
Is that similar to: Rafi playing ball with a friend.  The ball rolls away, his friend yells, "Rafi....chase".  Your son turns around and says, "Another A/A?"

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #54 on: November 22, 2013, 12:54:15 AM »
Ok, I'll stick to my day job.

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #55 on: November 22, 2013, 12:56:35 AM »
Ok, I'll stick to my day job.
Smart move.  :)
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #56 on: November 22, 2013, 01:12:33 AM »
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #57 on: November 22, 2013, 07:13:44 AM »
Not yet. This question bothered me my whole life I never understood it and I don't think I will ever do it with my wife. There's a lot of things we have to teach our kids in life and I think its better to explain it to them then to avoid the issue.

Most of the people I know who do it don't do it for any specific purpose.
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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #58 on: November 22, 2013, 09:56:32 AM »
I don't just think its strange I actually think its bad chinuch. From a young age children should be told what they should or shouldn't do. It's not only about mimicking. They should also allowed to be taught that there are differences between the way one interacts with their peers and the way one acts with someone older than them. If some of you are from Lakewood that might be too difficult a concept to grasp

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Re: Abba, Daddy, Or Tatty?
« Reply #59 on: November 22, 2013, 10:02:49 AM »
If some of you are from Lakewood that might be too difficult a concept to grasp
Ouch! You are from?
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