Author Topic: DDF DO: NYC Edition? (Read 1247270 times)

rots5 · « **Reply #2200 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:12:37 AM »

Quote from: yare on February 12, 2013, 08:02:30 AM

and does that mean she socializes with them out of work as well? you really can't figure out what might be inappropriate about that?

and, hate to break it to ya, but this ain't no company here, it's a social network

have u been to a DO? the ones ive been to was all about picking Drago's brain or uncle moishy or chaikel, red, armadillo, and so on.... so to me, i see a DO as more of a way to get questions answered....
but i can be wrong!

yuneeq · « **Reply #2201 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:14:30 AM »

Quote from: yare on February 12, 2013, 08:02:30 AM

and does that mean she socializes with them out of work as well? you really can't figure out what might be inappropriate about that?

and, hate to break it to ya, but this ain't no company here, it's a social network

+1

I assume that some poskim assur a woman working around men strictly because they're afraid of others falling down the same slippery slope.

Dan · « **Reply #2202 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:16:22 AM »

Quote from: yuneeq on February 12, 2013, 08:14:30 AM

+1

I assume that some poskim assur a woman working around men strictly because they're afraid of others falling down the same slippery slope.

Pretty hard for a man or woman to find a normal job today in a non-coed environment...

jj1000 · « **Reply #2203 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:16:43 AM »

Any chance this can be moved into a just shmooze thread? Or the ethical thread? Or modern day halacha thread?

Achas Veachas · « **Reply #2204 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:17:29 AM »

Great! All we need now is for the Daily News to run on article on discrimination in DDF...

yare · « **Reply #2205 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:18:17 AM »

Quote from: rots5 on February 12, 2013, 08:12:37 AM

have u been to a DO? the ones ive been to was all about picking Drago's brain or uncle moishy or chaikel, red, armadillo, and so on.... so to me, i see a DO as more of a way to get questions answered....
but i can be wrong!

there are definitely benefits/tricks to be had by going to a do, i don't see why that makes it any less of a social outing.

if all the guys in her work were going to get beers after work, or going to a ball game together, and there was good work information to be gained by her going, that would make it better? eh

yare · « **Reply #2206 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:19:35 AM »

Quote from: jj1000 on February 12, 2013, 08:16:43 AM

Any chance this can be moved into a just shmooze thread? Or the ethical thread? Or modern day halacha thread?

noones trying to preach halacha... rots5 asked a question on why anyone would not be comfortable going to the do with women, i was answering him

jj1000 · « **Reply #2207 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:23:47 AM »

Quote from: yare on February 12, 2013, 08:19:35 AM

noones trying to preach halacha... rots5 asked a question on why anyone would not be comfortable going to the do with women, i was answering him

some

people did quote halacha. And I just think this whole thing should be in a new thread, never said it has to do with your comments specifically...

yare · « **Reply #2208 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:29:33 AM »

Quote from: jj1000 on February 12, 2013, 08:23:47 AM

some people did quote halacha.

lol

yuneeq · « **Reply #2209 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:31:05 AM »

Quote from: Dan on February 12, 2013, 08:16:22 AM

Pretty hard for a man or woman to find a normal job today in a non-coed environment...

You found one

I don't know the shittos well, but they may hold that the negatives outweigh the benefits of an extra salary.

Still, I've never heard a posek assuring a man to work around women, only the opposite scenario. This may be because a woman (if targeted) may be easier to fall, or because there are much worse consequences if she falls.

yuneeq · « **Reply #2210 on:** February 12, 2013, 08:32:57 AM »

Quote from: jj1000 on February 12, 2013, 08:23:47 AM

some people did quote halacha. And I just think this whole thing should be in a new thread, never said it has to do with your comments specifically...

I wasn't preaching halacha. Rots wants to know why other people don't agree to his views, I showed him one reason. I don't believe in preaching, that's why I kept my mouth shut until then.

meshugener · « **Reply #2211 on:** February 12, 2013, 09:33:47 AM »

Some people here are just not nice.
They seem to forget that Lyla is not just a dummy DDF handle, she's a person, human with feelings.
If you don't feel it appropiate - according to your standards, than don't come. Period.
Where do you take a Heter from to be mevazeh a fellow Jew in public??
Some people have no respect to other's feelings AND to Halacha! All in the name of ------!
I can promise you, hashem wants you more not to embarrass her in public than you not attending a mixed DO.

rots5 · « **Reply #2212 on:** February 12, 2013, 09:44:32 AM »

Quote from: meshugener on February 12, 2013, 09:33:47 AM

Some people here are just not nice.
They seem to forget that Lyla is not just a dummy DDF handle, she's a person, human with feelings.
If you don't feel it appropiate - according to your standards, than don't come. Period.
Where do you take a Heter from to be mevazeh a fellow Jew in public??
Some people have no respect to other's feelings AND to Halacha! All in the name of ------!
I can promise you, hashem wants you more not to embarrass her in public than you not attending a mixed DO.

finally! someone with some decency to them! you guys should all be ashamed of yourselves! think ur holier than god!

yuneeq · « **Reply #2213 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:07:23 AM »

Quote from: meshugener on February 12, 2013, 09:33:47 AM

Some people here are just not nice.
They seem to forget that Lyla is not just a dummy DDF handle, she's a person, human with feelings.
If you don't feel it appropiate - according to your standards, than don't come. Period.
Where do you take a Heter from to be mevazeh a fellow Jew in public??
Some people have no respect to other's feelings AND to Halacha! All in the name of ------!
I can promise you, hashem wants you more not to embarrass her in public than you not attending a mixed DO.

Quote from: rots5 on February 12, 2013, 09:44:32 AM

finally! someone with some decency to them! you guys should all be ashamed of yourselves! think ur holier than god!

Instead of you guys bashing the posters here, I would like to see some quotes of posters making fun of lyla.

Rots: If youre too sensitive to hear the answers to your question, maybe next time don't ask it.

mmermss · « **Reply #2214 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:08:44 AM »

Ok...enough with this thread going way OT!

Who's in and who's out?

HelpMe · « **Reply #2215 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:09:07 AM »

Quote from: Achas Veachas on February 12, 2013, 08:17:29 AM

Great! All we need now is for the Daily News to run on article on discrimination in DDF...

I have some connections so I will see if they can do a story on it.

yuneeq · « **Reply #2216 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:12:43 AM »

Quote from: HelpMe on February 12, 2013, 10:09:07 AM

I have some connections so I will see if they can do a story on it.

I can volunteer to be the bigoted misogynist featured in the story:P

rots5 · « **Reply #2217 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:27:05 AM »

Quote from: yuneeq on February 12, 2013, 10:12:43 AM

I can volunteer to be the bigoted misogynist featured in the story:P

ur an idiot...no offense... if i said "damn unique is coming to the next DO...im out...i am a jdub and i dont mix with sy's..."
i am not sensitive...my question was posed out of curisosity but now i see how many low and shallow ppl there are...sad!!

yuneeq · « **Reply #2218 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:40:32 AM »

Quote from: lyla on February 10, 2013, 11:42:12 PM

I'd like to go. Hope you will allow women this time.

Quote from: AsherO on February 11, 2013, 12:50:53 AM

I'm not sure the guys would like that. Guys?

Quote from: Centurion on February 11, 2013, 10:43:19 PM

no offense.. im out if there will be women-

Quote from: rots5 on February 12, 2013, 06:51:48 AM

but for those saying there out, pls explain, i dont get it...sorry

Based on the flow of the topic, I wouldn't be so quick to bash the posters. And if I disagreed with those that don't wanna go, I wouldnt pose it as a question that compells those that hold the other way to defend and explain themselves, whose position may offend others.

PS. Since you continue to make fun of others and I, you may want to start posting the offensive quotes. I'm smelling hypocrisy in here.

whYME · « **Reply #2219 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:52:21 AM »

Quote from: meshugener on February 12, 2013, 09:33:47 AM

Some people here are just not nice.
They seem to forget that Lyla is not just a dummy DDF handle, she's a person, human with feelings.
If you don't feel it appropiate - according to your standards, than don't come. Period.
Where do you take a Heter from to be mevazeh a fellow Jew in public??
Some people have no respect to other's feelings AND to Halacha! All in the name of ------!
I can promise you, hashem wants you more not to embarrass her in public than you not attending a mixed DO.

1. I don't think any body said "she" (i.e. women) can't come, rather that they wouldn't come if it's mixed.

2. You must be following a different discussion than me, the one I see is a general discussion of whether or not a mixed DO is inappropriate, nothing to do with any individual member coming or not.