posting this here because this ends up being where most of the restaurant talk is and where I think its most relevant to
This website is great, there is so much help for people trying to do almost literally everything, from travel and airlines to just lending a hand for a favor. and its great. Its really klal yisroel working together to help each other out in whatever way they can. But something lately has simply been getting at me and I feel the need to publicize what I think is really wrong on here.
Plain and simple, the amount of lashon hara on here about restaurants is astounding. The horrible language about simple yidden trying to make a living and having done nothing wrong other than serving you a burger that wasnt up to your taste buds. Its just not right. Its lashon hara beyond reason and has no toeles what so ever. Yes, we all want to go out to eat at good places when we are on vacation (or in our home towns) but why cant the posts relevant to that be positive and instead of talking about who makes good or not so good food just talk about where you enjoyed eating.
The types of posts talking negatively about restaurants are just disgusting. And it seems to come from everyone from newer members all the way through some pretty senior members on here. But saying that you had a horrible experience at a restaurant or that the food was just plain bad, stay away, betting so much money about a restaurant being uncapable of winning a stupid goyish award that means absolutely nothing is just not allowed. its plain and simple lashon hara and besides for that its embarassing a yid and his business on a forum that has thousands of people looking at what you say. And who says the owner isnt on the website as well and sees your posts about his food?
There are other threads that have been hot topic recently that people are trying to make a big deal about not speaking lashon hara about groups of people in israel, etc that arent even that offensive and are the centerpoint of real hashkafic debates, yet when it comes to rating food, which one has to hashkafikly ask whether its the best use of their time in the first place, people have the most disgusting mouths saying slander about good hearted people that daven in shul three times a day and maybe even have a learning seder and just want to make a living in a world where lettuce costs 10 dollars a box. So why is it worth destroying someone's "reputation" to say such terrible things about their business? Maybe with such a disgusting mouth thats why the food didnt taste so good...
I also think that the thread rating airline food is just wrong. to every level. If you got good food, great. go post about how great it was and how lucky you were to have been graced with good airplane food. But to have a scale and rate jewish caterers on a scale of 1-10 (and using their company names to create a ranking in the first place is pure lashon hara with absolutely zero toeles because you can't choose from a menu of caters what you want to eat that day on the plane and all it is doing is saying that someone makes food that you call disgusting. Now, im not talking about when the airline messes up your meal for whatever reason. Im talking about rating jewish companies with calling their food inedible and all the foul language that has come along with it. It is simply purely lashon hara and really needs to stop. Again, its not stam lashon hara but its lashon hara on a forum that has thousands of people viewing what you wrote. If thats not embarrassing someone b'farhesia then what is?
I really think that if someone can get banned on here and posts removed for selling points then at the very least moderators should be monitoring such terrible language about our fellow yidden. Its something that makes such a chilul hashem on a website that really has potential to be a massive kiddush hashem. And I think that as a group we have to try and keep the website as the latter rather than the former. If you liked a restaurant, great! enjoy it. post about it! let people know what you liked. But posting negative things about a yid's business (especially on opinionated details!!!!) is just not mutar. (I know, Im paskining. But its not my psak, its from big rabbanim).
I can feel mashiach coming closer already...