@ayagart, if indeed you still have nine months for the amud, you've ain't seen anything yet. I seriously wish you good luck. I went through this not long ago and times came when I felt I just couldn't take it anymore.
What was really annoying was how my sisters were telling me how I'm so lucky that I can do something for my father and they wish they can also do something for his neshama...
They just had to take me for my word.
At the time I wanted to open a dedicated thread to the amud in the 11 months, (a pet peeve thread just doesn't do it justice...) but imho it's a potential for something extremely annoying when those who haven't gone through this will add in their .02. People can simply not perceive it if they didn't live it. But if you do open such a thread I've got a lot to add.
May it be a true aliya for the neshama.