Why do you think women make the bracha after lighting instead of before and why would that reason not apply to men?
I'm not making this up, this is what I have been informed as how men are supposed to do it.
Difference basically is that men aren't bringing in Shabbos right when they make the bracha, but women are.
You are really supposed to make the brachos before you do something, so only men are able to do it that way.
I don't know why men aren't mekabel Shabbos right away when making the bracha.