Poll

Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #105 on: February 19, 2014, 04:25:41 PM »
Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?
Thats a bad comparison.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #106 on: February 19, 2014, 04:26:18 PM »
Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?
That would be a great new thread! Poll and all  :)

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #107 on: February 19, 2014, 04:26:29 PM »
Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #108 on: February 19, 2014, 04:28:28 PM »
Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #109 on: February 19, 2014, 04:29:45 PM »
I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

a spouse is Diff as they have the ability to think, as well as life experience.
A kid has neither (or actually, a very limited amount of both)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #110 on: February 19, 2014, 04:30:06 PM »
That would be a great new thread! Poll and all  :)
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I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #111 on: February 19, 2014, 04:31:03 PM »
I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.
It is much harder to influence and adult than a child.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #112 on: February 19, 2014, 04:31:59 PM »

Thats a bad comparison.


you're right it is a terrible comparison. A spouse can leave you, seek shelter, file for divorce, protect her or himself in someway.

A child is totally helpless,  and did not ask to be born to you.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #113 on: February 19, 2014, 04:32:11 PM »
It is much harder to influence and adult than a child.
Exactly
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #114 on: February 19, 2014, 04:32:56 PM »
I believe people without children have a very weak comprehension on parenting issues. And it is annoying to read their insightless comments.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #115 on: February 19, 2014, 04:33:19 PM »
You don't have any responsibility to be mchanech your wife, but you have it on your kids.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #116 on: February 19, 2014, 04:33:44 PM »
and did not ask to be born to you.
#immaturity
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #117 on: February 19, 2014, 04:34:22 PM »


you're right it is a terrible comparison. A spouse can leave you, seek shelter, file for divorce, protect her or himself in someway.

A child is totally helpless,  and did not ask to be born to you.
Iam not one who just hits his kids all the time for no reason. If I see my child run in to the street or do something dangerous or life threatening I will give him/her a slap to remind them not to do it again. I think that giving a slap will leave more of an impression then just telling a 2-3 year old not to do it.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #118 on: February 19, 2014, 04:34:50 PM »
#immaturity
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #119 on: February 19, 2014, 04:35:01 PM »
You don't have any responsibility to be mchanech your wife, but you have it on your kids.

Ok.

But you're still are trying to influence what they do. Why not use the best methods?