Author Topic: Do you hit your kids? (Read 37226 times)

meshugener · « **Reply #140 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:49:09 PM »

Quote from: henche on February 19, 2014, 04:28:28 PM

, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

-1
Works excellent for me.

henche · « **Reply #141 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:50:00 PM »

Quote from: meshugener on February 19, 2014, 04:49:09 PM

-1
Works excellent for me.

I'm sorry to hear that. You should really stop being such a pushover and stand up to her.

yehuda S · « **Reply #142 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:51:09 PM »

Quote from: mod on February 19, 2014, 04:47:20 PM

That's why hitting a spouse makes more sense. An adult understands. The child just thinks you hate them.

An adult understands???

Find me an adult whom you can hit and will "understand"?

I think they will understand that you have issues and they need to file for divorce.

Lou Bob · « **Reply #143 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:52:24 PM »

Quote from: mod on February 19, 2014, 04:47:20 PM

That's why hitting a spouse makes more sense. An adult understands. The child just thinks you hate them.

If that adult understands, then he/she won't be running into the street in the first place.

judahk88 · « **Reply #144 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:52:42 PM »

Quote from: yehuda S on February 19, 2014, 04:51:09 PM

An adult understands???

Find me an adult whom you can hit and will "understand"?

I think they will understand that you have issues and they need to file for divorce.

I don't think you undertsand "hitting". I am not talking about punching kid across the face I am talking about giving them a small smack on their hand and telling them not to do it again.

henche · « **Reply #145 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:54:21 PM »

Quote from: judahk88 on February 19, 2014, 04:52:42 PM

I don't think you undertsand "hitting". I am not talking about punching kid across the face I am talking about giving them a small smack on their hand and telling them not to do it again.

Ok, what is the purpose of that?
Does it hurt, or is this some sort of symbolism.

mod · « **Reply #146 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:55:29 PM »

Quote from: yehuda S on February 19, 2014, 04:51:09 PM

An adult understands???

Find me an adult whom you can hit and will "understand"?

I think they will understand that you have issues and they need to file for divorce.

not what I meant. An adult can understand. I didn't say accept it. It makes more sense to hit a spouse than a child.
My point is more- the Rambam references hitting a wife...
Don't think either is a good idea to say the least, but child is much worse.

mod · « **Reply #147 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:56:11 PM »

Quote from: Lou Bob on February 19, 2014, 04:52:24 PM

If that adult understands, then he/she won't be running into the street in the first place.

You're assuming that people are not hitting for obedience

mod · « **Reply #148 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:56:58 PM »

Quote from: judahk88 on February 19, 2014, 04:52:42 PM

I don't think you undertsand "hitting". I am not talking about punching kid across the face I am talking about giving them a small smack on their hand and telling them not to do it again.

Is that supposed to hurt or just make a point?

judahk88 · « **Reply #149 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:57:31 PM »

Quote from: henche on February 19, 2014, 04:54:21 PM

Ok, what is the purpose of that?
Does it hurt, or is this some sort of symbolism.

I don't know what hurts or not. I obviously don't want to leave marks on my child, but I do want them to remember not to do it again and I think that giving them a small smack on their hand will remind them more then just telling them.
Don't get me wrong I am not into hitting a kid for any reason and because one is short tempered, but I do think it certain cisrcumstances you have to. I have one kid and I can tell you that since she is born I smacked her once or twice and one if thise times was because she ran into the street.

meshugener · « **Reply #150 on:** February 19, 2014, 04:58:37 PM »

Quote from: henche on February 19, 2014, 04:50:00 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. You should really stop being such a pushover and stand up to her.

I have a feeling you just got married. You're a little inexperienced. I see this with 99% of newlyweds.

Wait, give it time and you'll slowly land from your honeymoon highness.

You'll realize life is not made just of a bed of roses, sometimes we have to hit our spouse, sometimes they hit back.
Thats life, thats what everyone does, thats what your parents did and that's what you'll realize sooner rather than later.

Ergel · « **Reply #151 on:** February 19, 2014, 05:02:51 PM »

I love this place. You can have some people having a super serious conversation intertwined with people who are joking

judahk88 · « **Reply #152 on:** February 19, 2014, 05:03:13 PM »

Quote from: Ergel on February 19, 2014, 05:02:51 PM

I love this place. You can have some people having a super serious conversation intertwined with people who are joking

ALOL +100

efflpetzel · « **Reply #153 on:** February 19, 2014, 05:07:22 PM »

In answer to the OP's question, Do you hit your kids, i have to say IME it all depends If & how much you were hit as a kid.
My father never spared me from the rod (I'll admit I wasn't an easy kid) & I see that today, when my kid does something wrong bad or pushes me to the end of my tether I have a strong impulse to give him a potch, B'H I'm able to calm down & think straight & give my kid the appropriate punishment, but its not easy

CountValentine · « **Reply #154 on:** February 19, 2014, 05:08:43 PM »

Quote from: yehuda S on February 19, 2014, 04:24:44 PM

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

Best time we ever had.