I had 2 questions regarding this week's yated chinuch roundtable.
A) Where in shulchan aruch does it say that kids have to stand for adults or show them respect?
B) How many of the adults complaining stand up whenever someone 70+ walks into the room?
Where in shulchan aruch does it say to give a woman in her ninth month your seat on a bus? Where does it say to give a gut shabbos to the Rov? Where does it say you are supposed to give a Mazel tov to the Baal Simcha?
That’s what sechel was created for. Not everything has to be a ois in the mishnah berurah. It should be self understood that adults standing for lack of seats and watching tables full of kids grabbing and eating all the food is a tzurah that is a הירוס of chinuch. And that’s not even considering that the adults are largely there to participate with the baal simcha while the kids are there to simply eat.
I used to live in a very large development in Lakewood a while back and still remember vividly when I made a shalom zachor. We came back from davening and had just washed when there was a banging on the door. I opened it to see a horde of young kids I didn’t recognize , unaccompanied by adults who had come to descend on the food. I politely sent them away but I was shocked. Where were their parents? To let your kids bang down the door of a Baal simcha they don’t even know half an hour after davening ends to grab some food?
Now I know the answer. No where in shulchan aruch does it say to watch your kids Friday night instead of letting them roam gang style. Unfortunately fast forward a dozen years or so and the פירות of this chinuch are quite ניכר.
