"Just, like, give him what he wants and then we will free you" - why should she concede anything in order to be freed? The price of freedom should be $0. Other stuff can be resolved separately, the Get itself shouldn't be tied to it. Guys should give gets or get a cattle prod.
Withholding a Get is abusive and serves one purpose.. one last act of maintaining control over the woman, not letting her remarry. It is insane that you guys want to assign any kind of terms to a woman in order to receive a Get.
I have no clue to the facts of the Tamar Epstein case.
But if a man feels that the courts took away his visitation rights unfairly.
And he believes that his (ex) wife is acting unfairly.
I see no reason why he shouldn't use a get as leverage.
I'm sure you would too. Can you imagine losing the right to see your children?
If she used unfair tactics (lying) in the power struggle, so should you!