Would this change the shidduch picture conversation?

[S209]

Would have spent all my miles and time flying around the world.

Is this a brag?

[Yonah]

Not in Yeshivish circles. In Chassidish circles, if pictures are shared, which is the exception rather than the rule, it goes both ways.

So help me out, why is this the norm? why don't people challenge it. As an outsider, if a potential shidduch asked for my daughter's picture I'd ask for their son's picture too. Would that be something that would mark my daughter as undesirable for even my asking?

[Dan]

So help me out, why is this the norm? why don't people challenge it. As an outsider, if a potential shidduch asked for my daughter's picture I'd ask for their son's picture too. Would that be something that would mark my daughter as undesirable for even my asking?

Makes no sense to me not to go both ways.

[yelped]

So help me out, why is this the norm? why don't people challenge it. As an outsider, if a potential shidduch asked for my daughter's picture I'd ask for their son's picture too. Would that be something that would mark my daughter as undesirable for even my asking?

If you're keeping up with the hock, it is being challenged right now actually.

[etech0]

If you're keeping up with the hock, it is being challenged right now actually.

And by hock we refer to Mishpacha magazine

[Dan]

And by hock we refer to Mishpacha magazine

TLDR?

[Dan]

Is this a brag?

Have the ratios of girls to boys changed in the past decade?

[Lurker]

Have the ratios of girls to boys changed in the past decade?

Yes. These days, you would have run out of miles before finding Mimi.

[PlatinumGuy]

[Lurker]

That gives me simultaneous feelings of relief and dread.

[AsherO]

*eyeroll* Why don’t they just provide a script for the boy/girl to read?...

[Lurker]

*eyeroll* Why don’t they just provide a script for the boy/girl to read?...

Who needs conversation? All you need is a checklist. Chemistry can come later. Or not. Whatever. It's overrated.

[AsherO]

Who needs conversation? All you need is a checklist. Chemistry can come later. Or not. Whatever. It's overrated.

The whole meeting thing is gzeiras hakasuv, we already quadruple verified the checklist during “research”, when we found out the boxers next get crumpled.

[aygart]

Who needs conversation? All you need is a checklist. Chemistry can come later. Or not. Whatever. It's overrated.

You aren't finding that out in 5-10 dates anyhow. The whole dating thing is overrated. Either you put proper effort into your marriage and the dates are barely needed or you don't and they barely help.

[Lurker]

You aren't finding that out in 5-10 dates anyhow. The whole dating thing is overrated. Either you put proper effort into your marriage and the dates are barely needed or you don't and they barely help.

Mostly true. I figured out quite a bit during the dating period.

[th0306]

You aren't finding that out in 5-10 dates anyhow. The whole dating thing is overrated. Either you put proper effort into your marriage and the dates are barely needed or you don't and they barely help.

+1

[AsherO]

You aren't finding that out in 5-10 dates anyhow. The whole dating thing is overrated. Either you put proper effort into your marriage and the dates are barely needed or you don't and they barely help.

+1000 I learned the most about (myself and) the people I dated by marrying my DW

[aygart]

Mostly true. I figured out quite a bit during the dating period.

That is why I wrote "barely"

[shwarmabob]

I assume that guys share pictures as well as girls - is that correct?
Is it just as likely that I guy would be turned down because of looks than a girl?

Almost all shadchanim asked for a picture of my daughter. One of them apologetically said that she disagrees with this but the boys wouldn't consider a date before seeing a pic.
In turn my DD also asked for pictures...

[zh cohen]

*eyeroll* Why don’t they just provide a script for the boy/girl to read?...

This is just a list of potential conversation starters.